Second chances. - Relationship Health Message Board

cinting · 07-19-2005, 08:50 AM

Does anyone believe in second chances and what are some circumstances where you wouldn't give someone a second chance?

Ruth6:11 · 07-19-2005, 09:20 AM

As long as I am married to a human being I will need to have a certain amount of forgiveness if I want to stay in the relationship.

I would NOT forgive:

Abusive behavior.
Child abuse/neglect
A "love affair" (lots of long term lying included)
An addiction for which treatment is refused.

babygirl2005_21 · 07-19-2005, 12:52 PM

I believe that everyone deserves a second chance but not a third, fourth or fifth! People make mistakes, I know I have! But here are some things I would not forgive: like Ruth said child abuse, physical abuse, some verbal abuse can be forgiven if it doesn't repeat itself, sex with another woman (sometimes people do cheat by kissing or other things but any kind of sex and I would be gone), and any man that won't let me do my own thing every once in awhile has to go!

curious_girl · 07-19-2005, 11:18 PM

I Agree With Ruth6:11 (1)abusive Behavior (2)child Abuse/neglect (3)love Affair(long Term Lying) And (4)addiction Which Treatment Is Rufused Is Something To Not Be Forgived For. I Also Agree With Babygirl2005 21 Bout Not Letting You Do Your Own Thing But Also I Think That (1)spending Time With His Friends All The Time And Not With You (2) Not Letting You Talk To Your Family & Friends (3)verbal Abuse (it Really Covers Everything). Just Listen To Your Heart And Make Sure That It Is Telling You What You Need. If You Feel That You Are At Risk Or If You Have Children And They Are At Risk Then Dont Forgive Them.

Sorry That Im Not Much Help.

Best Of Luck
Jess

cinting · 07-20-2005, 09:37 AM

Would you give someone a second chance if they had started seeing you right after a bad relationship, still wasn't over things, and thought they wanted the ex back? And then they realized they do. If they had told you how they felt about the relationship they had just got out of, but they also cared about you too?