shiznit

I've been in a relationship with someone I've spoken to since I was about 10. I am nearly 22 now. We have been in an exclusive long distance relationship, preparing for our wedding and for me to move to England to live with him. He is the same age as me. We travel to see each other for several weeks at a time every couple of months or so, and everything was absolutely wonderful. We call each other every night, etc etc. His family loves me, and his friends like me, and everything is great on my end too.

Last year I went from being broke to suddenly wealthy due to the death of an immediate relative. As a result of this, I asked him, "When we marry, would you sign a prenup?"

All was fine and dandy, and he agreed to do so: "Oh of course, I just want to be with you, I'll sign anything, this isn't important to me." His parents have even insisted that he sign my prenup, my parents, and my friends even insist. I do not feel comfy marrying anyone, no matter how much I love them, without having protection of my assets. Even if he's not looking for it, I know for a fact there are women out there who sniff out men who have wives who have money and convince them to leave for this magically "better" life.

I called the lawyer yesterday, paid the $1000something to have all the legal paperwork done, and the lawyer informed me, "Okay, it's time to send the paperwork over to him. He will need a lawyer in his presence on his end [which I agreed to pay for] since he is across the ocean, so it doesn't look like he was coerced into signing or ignorant as to what he is signing."

I called him last night, and told him I had the prenup ready. He turned into such a monster on me, saying "I didn't trust him," and "I'm so insulted you think I would steal anything from you," and "Preparing for our divorce already? We're not even married yet! I guess we won't be marrying since you have such doubts about me."

It eventually ended up with him saying "You're just protecting yourself, you don't care about me, I don't think I want to marry you. You think you're so much better than me because you got an inheritance and I'm in debt because I don't make much money."

I am absolutely hysterical with grief. My parents just look at me and shake their heads in disgust.

Then, he kept switching his story, saying "Sure, of course I'll sign anything you put in front of me."

I have no idea what to think anymore. I feel like I don't know whether I can trust him anymore. It's like he was calling my bluff, thinking if he was being so easygoing, I wouldn't want to have a prenup made. Or am I reading too much into this?

How do you ease someone's discomfort about signing a prenup? Because I will NOT marry anyone without it. You are your only best friend. Unfortunately, I also thought he was my best friend too....I'm heartbroken.