Hi all, Thank you for your support over the months.
OK, so last Saturday was my nightmare come true. (the one I mentioned in my last thread).
I went on a date with someone to clear my head of what's been going on. When I got back home, I received a call from my x-boyfriend demanding to know where I was, why I won't answer his calls anymore, and if he could come over.
I said he couldn't, and if he did I would call the police.
He asked where I was, and I told him I was at my parent's house (a lie).
Apparently he had been driving around all night looking for me, because toward the end of the call, I heard him enter the back door. He immediately reached my door and started banging on it, saying "let me in" (the door was locked.
I told him to get lost or I would call the police, but then he kicked down the door. Ok, at this point, I was half dressed because I had been changing.
I was dialing 9-11, when he knocked the phone out of my hands in the scuffle (like my dream).
From all the noise, my roommates came in, and one of them had a gun. They told him to leave immediately. He left at this point.
I then called the police and they came by and got my report at 4 am in the morning. They called him and later that night and he turned himself in.
This morning he has an arraignment. The prosecutorís office called to question me more.
I pray I get a no-contact order out of this.
This weekend, I couldn't eat, sleep, or function. I've felt sick from being traumatized.
This morning, I felt GREAT!! I'm free, and no one is going to harrass me at all hours of the night. No one will be stalking me, no one will try to control me.
(let's hope they don't let him out w\out a no contact order.)
I would like to thank you all for guiding me to make the right decision about this relationship. You gave me a mirror (along with the DV hotline, friends) that I had a hard time seeing by myself.
I may not have been ready in the past to leave the relationship, but the constant patient support and identification of wrong behaviors slowly influenced me to make the right choice.
I want to share that the best thing that happened to be was receiving supportive, patience, avaliability from friends, and information about what is unhealthy. The constant flow of information over a period of time has had a huge effect on me.
I owe many of you my life, my happiness, and my respect.