therapy--but not married or engaged?
Has anyone here gone to therapy with a significant other that you are not married to or even engaged to?
my boyfriend and I have had a tumultuous relationship over the past year and a half. we seem to have some sort of connection that we just can't get past. in a way, i don't WANT to get past it, and neither does he. we both want desperately to be together, and to be happy. he has a lot of difficulties with relationships--his parents have not provided a good model (but mine have).
in the past, most of our problems have centered around misunderstandings and miscommunications. i have a hard time trying to get him to express how he's feeling once he gets into a "funk." then i feel rejected and insecure, and it goes downhill.
we recently started seeing each other again, and it's wonderful. but, we're both fearful that the same problems will start plaguing us. he approached me about going to therapy. he's decided that he probably would benefit from individual counseling, and thought we might benefit from going as a couple, as well.
my concern is that we're not married or even engaged--has anyone else done this? has it helped? the way we're looking at it is that it certainly can't hurt. also, is it expensive?