Re: Estranged from parents!!
I might try to feel out the situation first, maybe, with a phone call. That might be a first step in opening the lines of communication. My father and I were estranged for 20 years, both of us bull-headed, finally I swallowed my pride, because I knew he wouldn't, and I called him.
Tell them on the phone that you are coming into town and you would like for them to meet your husband and thier first grandbaby. See what they say. What's the worst that could happen? They say no thank you? I would hope they would not be that rude and self-centered as to say that.
Anyway, just wanted to give my $.02 worth.