Re: I'm so shallow
B/C your needs are not being met with this guy. You can love him like a brother, and you'll never be as happy as you are with a guy you are completely hot over--and him hot for you. C'mon!! It's not shallow!! It's the truth.
We are all so afraid to say this kind of thing out loud, but we shouldn't be. Life is too darn short to not be blissfully happy in ALL areas of your life. It's your life--live it to the fullest. If you want a hotter guy, one you are crazy about--than go get one.
I lived for 10 yrs with someone like that, and told myself it was fine cuz he was my husband--and that's the way everyone was over time. NOT!!! There is great passion, and way, way better ways to feel other than warmly toward someone. I don't know about you, but I don't want warm. I want HOT!! For that I make no apologies--call me shallow if ya want--I call myself someone who knows what she wants and refuses to settle anymore.
Heck--I was with a hot 23 yr old last night. I'm much older than he. He's way hotter than my hubby was, and I had a great time. Color me shallow---but I'm living my life and loving every minute of it.