It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



Relationship Health Message Board
Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 08-28-2005, 06:53 PM   #1
Newbie
(female)
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Posts: 2
ravioli HB User
jealousy - can I keep it from killing a LDR?

Hi everyone - What can one do to keep insecurities in check in a long distance relationship? I've been in one for five weeks (after a year of dating normally) and I'm really worried my boyfriend will meet someone new (he just moved back to school and so will be meeting a lot of new people). I try not to bring it up with him, for it doesn't really help to just be worrying over the phone, but it's on my mind a lot and makes the relationship less satisfying as I just don't feel as secure. Help!

 
Sponsors Lightbulb
   
Old 08-28-2005, 07:05 PM   #2
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Dec 2004
Posts: 1,069
Hangin in There HB User
Re: jealousy - can I keep it from killing a LDR?

Well, you could look at it this way....if someone is going to cheat, they'll do it whether they live in the same city, neighborhood or household. Of course, it makes it easier to cheat when they're far away, but if they were trustworthy before, they should be trustworthy now.

I personally wouldn't be happy in a LDR because I would miss him too much.

 
Sponsors Lightbulb
   
Old 08-29-2005, 07:30 AM   #3
Junior Member
(male)
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Posts: 26
RockMyBoat HB User
Re: jealousy - can I keep it from killing a LDR?

Yeah ... but when you are away from your s.o. you may find yourself clinging to other people you meet for sexual or emotional reasons...

 
Old 08-29-2005, 11:14 AM   #4
Inactive
(female)
 
Join Date: Jul 2005
Posts: 205
dsleik HB User
Re: jealousy - can I keep it from killing a LDR?

ive been in a long dist. rel. for about a yr and half w my bf of 2 yrs. its not that hard if your hearts are relly both into it and you trust eachother. we are 8 hrs apart and have gone months without seeing eachother but let me tell you when i see him after being apart, it is an amazing feeling. long distance and college football is keeping us apart right now but i just think only 9 mths to go and we will be togehter graduated finally. some pple can handle it, others cant. are you afraid he is gonna hang out w someone and get to like them or are you afraid hes gonna cheat. because i personally think that by you being together a yr, that you have nothing to worry about as long as you both want it to work out. how old are you and how far apart are you?

 
Old 08-29-2005, 11:42 AM   #5
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Posts: 944
veggie girl HB User
Re: jealousy - can I keep it from killing a LDR?

Quote:
Originally Posted by ravioli
Hi everyone - What can one do to keep insecurities in check in a long distance relationship? I've been in one for five weeks (after a year of dating normally) and I'm really worried my boyfriend will meet someone new (he just moved back to school and so will be meeting a lot of new people). I try not to bring it up with him, for it doesn't really help to just be worrying over the phone, but it's on my mind a lot and makes the relationship less satisfying as I just don't feel as secure. Help!
The best thing is for you to get out, meet people, experience life and have an active social, intellectual, creative life - then you won't be thinking about your boyfriend.

If he's the cheating type he'll cheat whether he lives in another country or in the SAME house!! If not, no distance will tempt him to cheat.

Can you honestly say he's not the type you can trust, or do you think the issue is just with you?

 
Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
Swinger Jealousy and text messages... muskegonmatt Sexual Health - General 5 12-22-2009 09:13 AM
Overcoming jealousy of gf's past OTbass Relationship Health 12 12-31-2008 10:39 AM
I can't handle my jealousy Lucinda123 Relationship Health 36 08-04-2007 02:13 AM
Jealousy rears its head!! Please please take a moment to advise dkennedy2007 Relationship Health 23 06-07-2007 04:11 PM
Serious jealousy/trust issues... need help (long) Batboy08 Relationship Health 6 10-27-2006 09:05 AM




Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




Sign Up Today!

Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation!

I want my free account

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 05:45 PM.



Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
Terms of Use © 1998-2014 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!