Re: same arguement over and over
Yeah, I've experienced and heard about way too many examples of so-called female friends who do everything in their power to make their friends feel insecure and sabotage their relationships or anything else that makes them happy, just to feel better about their own miserable lives. Your boyfriend is right that this girl wants to ruin your relationship and tear you apart, and while I understand that you won't let that happen, women often have a very subtle, gradual, insidious way of planting seeds of doubt and insecurity in your head, thus sabotaging your relationships while you don't even notice what they're doing! This girl seems to fit the description of what we refer to here as a toxic friend, who is essentially someone whose impact on your life is more negative than positive overall and someone who would like to see you as unhappy and insecure as she is and stops at nothing to sneakily achieve that goal. I strongly suggest gradually distancing yourself from this girl...I had a "best friend" in high school who was much the same way, always miserable and whining about her own unfulfilling life and trying to drag me down to her level, but unfortunately, out of pity and loyalty to her, I stayed "best friends" with her much longer than I should have. By then she was spreading cruel and untrue rumors about me all over school and trying to convince my BF to leave me for her and to persuade my friends to ditch me based on lies she'd make up about me. Honestly, girl friends like this are just toxic, and the sooner and more thoroughly you can minimize her impact on your life and relationships, the better...but please take it from me, don't let your guard down and give her the benefit of the doubt. Chances are she's always scheming to mess things up for you in one way or another, so you'll need to be vigilant about preventing her from succeeding in sabotaging your relationship, friendships, and self-esteem. It's better to have fewer or no friends than to let someone whose negativity is contagious play a major role in your life. Good luck and take care!