Lilly10

TTBAM,

Hello first off I am sorry about your situation. I am going throug a tough time myself right now so I really do feel for you. I feel that you should tell her that you feel she needs time to sort through her own life as it is very painful waiting for her to make a decision. Are you still living under the same roof? I have come to my own conclusion that nothing I can say or do at this point will do anything for my relationship so I have resorted to the good old "if it was meant to be it will work out". I think you are on the right track with giving her space and being understanding but dont make this all about her make sure you consider your own feelings and that you are hurt as well you need to show that you have strength. I must say that you seem very forgiving of your wifes cheating on you. The best I can say to you is what I have been telling myself that somehow this will work out with or with out him (my ex finace) as hurt as I am I will get through this! As far as stay go space help I would go at least for now trying to hold on just pushes them further away and sounds like your wife needs to do a lot of thinking and you need to do some thinking as well! I know it is lonely and so sad but you will be ok!!