Re: Where did we go wrong?
Do you love her?
Most men look at sex differently than most women.
Men see sex as a way to show their intimacy... a way to make the relationship stronger... and it feels like something that should just be happening as regularly as changing your underpants since it's human nature.
Women, however, (at least in my case) see sex differently.
It depends on the situation obviously....
But for the most part, it's an act that sometimes feels good, sometimes feels like a "duty"... but all in all, if it makes our partner happy, it's a good thing.
Sex is not the basis of a relationship. It does, however, in most cases make a relationship stronger.
Oddly enough, I was discussing the whole "Moving in" thing with my boyfriend recently.
I am very against moving in together before we get married or at least engaged.
There is no more time apart. You wake up to each other and go to bed to each other everyday. there is no anticipation anymore. What would be the point of getting married after living together for a couple years before?
Maybe she feels as if the sex is too scheduled.
Spice it up a bit.
If you have a weekend off together, take her somewhere and "woo" her. ;-)
Tell her she's the most beautiful person you've ever seen and how much you love her.
Women need to hear these things.
Maybe she's feeling 'not so sexy' lately for some reason...?
That's happened to me before. I had put on a few pounds and the last thing I wanted to do was have sex with my boyfriend. Yes, he felt rejected, but we talked things over and it was okay.
Try perhaps talking to her. Find out what's going on in her mind....
but for pete's sake
DO NOT CHEAT ON HER IF YOU LOVE HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!