Scared. - Relationship Health Message Board

rubberduqqie · 11-27-2005, 11:12 AM

After having recently broken up with my boyfriend we have decided to give it another shot. He broke up with me being somewhat commitment phobic, stressed and just too much to handle at the moment. Now we spent the day and evening together last night and it was great I missed having my boyfriend cuddle me in his arms and the kisses. But it was so awkward it was like we were on a first date and just really uncomfortable with each other and yet totally comfortable it was so strange. Has this happened to anyone? Can you give me tips on how to make it easier?

Ps. It was a difficult break up and we didn’t talk for a couple weeks. Like no contact. Am I just feeling distant?

katiej714 · 11-27-2005, 01:25 PM

Hi - This has happened to me in the past and believe it or not things did work out. We are not engaged and have been together for 7 years. It just takes time. I mean think about it like this.. you can't expect it to be it was before you broke up right away. You broke up.. it happened.. you can't forget about it that fast and because of that it just takes a little time. Take it slow.. go out and just have fun with each other. You have plenty of time to work on this so just enjoy your time together. Go to movies, out to dinner, walks, whatever you both like to do. Dont move too fast because he felt smothered before right? He didn't want move that fast and he got scared. Built a strong friendship with him...you can be his girlfriend and his best friend.. Be sure that you give him his space though. He needs time to go hang out with the guys.