I've got an update. He called last night and said "hey, no phone call or emails? I miss you. I want to see you." I took GE's advice and disappeard for about 5 days - no contact. I almost fainted when he said this, "I'm coming to pick you up after work and we're going out." Then he started the "pack a bag" talk again. I firmly said, " I told you I can't do that!" Then I said, "how about this... come over after work and I'll cook dinner for you." That's what we are doing. I haven't made my mind up about this one yet. Now I have to figure out what to make for dinner!!!
Hey, now that's much better! Hmm, how about grilled salmon with potatoes and a nice salad with olive oil and balsamic vinegar for an appetizer? Hmm, I really like my own advice--maybe will have that for dinner myself Good luck, Red--have a great date!
Hey, now that's much better! Hmm, how about grilled salmon with potatoes and a nice salad with olive oil and balsamic vinegar for an appetizer? Hmm, I really like my own advice--maybe will have that for dinner myself Good luck, Red--have a great date!
grilled salmon sounds good..you read my mind. rice is better than the potatoes though..
Red, I'm sorry to bring things down a little but it really does sound like this guy just wants to sleep with you. He asked if you are on "protection"? Good Lord, I would have cursed him out right then and there! How dare anyone presume!! You did the right thing by not talking to him and not accepting his "proposal". But it's only natural for a guy not to just give up on the pursuit of sex so easily. He's trying again. He could be putting on the moves, trying to butter you up by saying he misses you. Hey, he could have called too and he didn't!
I don't know, if you really feel he deserves your hard work in the kitchen, then that's your call. But just be very cautious as you proceed. And I would definitely not sleep with him. Usually I would say just go with what feels right, but something just bugs me about this situation. I think it's the "protection" thing, and the fact that he doesn't want to take you out for an actual date, but rather have you spend the night. He just sounds like a real creep.
Red, I'm sorry to bring things down a little but it really does sound like this guy just wants to sleep with you. He asked if you are on "protection"? Good Lord, I would have cursed him out right then and there! How dare anyone presume!! You did the right thing by not talking to him and not accepting his "proposal". But it's only natural for a guy not to just give up on the pursuit of sex so easily. He's trying again. He could be putting on the moves, trying to butter you up by saying he misses you. Hey, he could have called too and he didn't!
I don't know, if you really feel he deserves your hard work in the kitchen, then that's your call. But just be very cautious as you proceed. And I would definitely not sleep with him. Usually I would say just go with what feels right, but something just bugs me about this situation. I think it's the "protection" thing, and the fact that he doesn't want to take you out for an actual date, but rather have you spend the night. He just sounds like a real creep.
Yeah, that one comment just sounded so calculated AND presumptuous. I must admit it would bug me, too. Red, maybe you SHOULD take him up on his offer to take you out after all? Seems like he hasn't done anything special for you in a while.
Too late now. The plans have already been made. Trust me, I'm a very strong person. Sex is NOT going to happen. In fact, the main reason I invited him for dinner rather than go to a public place is so that I can have a talk with him. I'm going to tell him how I feel about the whole situation and if he doesn't like it, so be it. Thanks so much guys for caring. I'll update you all in the morning.
Too late now. The plans have already been made. Trust me, I'm a very strong person. Sex is NOT going to happen. In fact, the main reason I invited him for dinner rather than go to a public place is so that I can have a talk with him. I'm going to tell him how I feel about the whole situation and if he doesn't like it, so be it. Thanks so much guys for caring. I'll update you all in the morning.
I really don't think you should reveal your emotions at this time, but if that's what you want to do, then go ahead. If I were you, I would show him with actions that you want more than what he is giving.
I really don't think you should reveal your emotions at this time, but if that's what you want to do, then go ahead. If I were you, I would show him with actions that you want more than what he is giving.
I agree. Talking usually accomplishes very little with most men. They will nod their head but in the end they will do what they want to do anyway. I think you should just have a fun time and enjoy dinner together, and the next time he suggests getting together, make him take you out. Well, suggest it, not "make him," I guess Just agree to whatever sounds good to you, and whatever doesn't, tell him "Oh, ok, but I was thinking it could be more fun to go see a show or have a fun night on the town. I know this great restaurant...." You get the picture. Every time he tries to drag you to his place and suggest staying over and you're not comfortable with that, tall him "Sure, next time." Then tell him the same the next time LOL. I've done that before with guys I wasn't that attracted to, and it seemed to make them crazy. You're basically "agreeing" with them but end up doing things your way--sounds good, no?
Picture this... me sitting around like an idiot with dinner in the oven until 8:00 until I finally get ****** off enough to turn the phones of, put dinner away, do the dishes, and go to bed. Commical, isn't it?
He called at about 5:30 and said he had to go over to the urgent care center because his son was there with the grandmother, not feeling well. He would call me back in a bit to let me know what was going on. I gave him until 8:00. This moring when I woke up there were 2 text messages on my cell and a message on my phone. "Hey, I thought you wanted me to come over?" Is he really that clueless???
This is the 4th time in a row we've had plans and he either blew me off or canceled. Maybe his son is sick. I understand that. The issue is it's the 4th time he's pulled this. Does he think I'm just going to sit around and wait for him while my dinner is being ruined.
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Picture this... me sitting around like an idiot with dinner in the oven until 8:00 until I finally get ****** off enought to turn the phones of, put dinner away, do the dishes, and go to bed. Commical, isn't it?
He called at about 5:30 and said he had to go over to the urgent care center because his son was there with the grandmother, not feeling well. He would call me back in a bit to let me know what was going on. I gave him until 8:00. This moring when I woke up there were 2 text messages on my cell and a message on my phone. "Hey, I thought you wanted me to come over?" Is he really that clueless???
Reddoor, HE IS A DOCTOR. They are on call and his son was in urgent care. Give him a break!
Red, I am so sorry for your disappointment. You must have felt so horrible going into all the trouble of making a nice dinner, probably cleaning your apartment to create a nice atmosphere, and he pulls this off again. Normally, if this happened once, I would say to give him a break because the circumstances justify it, but this is the 4th time in a row that he cancelled or blew you off. It's almost too much of a coincident that something would happen AGAIN. But you have no proof that he's not telling you the truth. Regardless, courtesy would require him to at least call you and let you know when he thinks he'll be coming over. It's not nice to just leave you hanging. I admit, his excuse is pretty good this time, so if he apologizes profusely and offers to make it up to you by taking you out to a nice dinner, maybe you could give him one LAST chance...It's up to you, though. Combined with all his previous actions and comments, I think this man might be just a waste of time.
Hmm, how about grilled salmon with potatoes and a nice salad with olive oil and balsamic vinegar for an appetizer? Hmm, I really like my own advice--maybe will have that for dinner myself 
Good luck, Red--have a great date!
rice is better than the potatoes though.. 
