Hi everyone,
I need some advice and I will apologize in advance if this post runs a little long but anyone who could offer some insight would be greatly appreciated.
I posted on here about two months ago. My situation in short is this....I am a 27 year old single guy and there is a girl I know who lives on my block. I have known her about half my life. We had never dated and we really arent even friends. We are definately friendly with each other and in my opinion we get along together very well but its not like we hang out or do things together. Shes just someone I know that lives in the area basically.
Last month a good friend of mine was getting married and since I am single I needed a date for the wedding. I decided to ask this girl. I was a little hesitant since we had never done anything like this before together but the truth is that I do like her and I figured that by taking her to the wedding with me it would be a good opportunity to spend some time together and maybe it might lead to other things in the future. So I asked her and right away she said yes and didn't seem to hesitate at all and really seemed as if she was excited about going.
I asked her about a month before the wedding so she had plenty of time to get what she was going to wear and stuff so I seen her about a week before the wedding and reminded her about it and she still seemed just as excited about it as when I had originally asked her. So I took down her cellphone number and I said that I would call her that day of the wedding, a few hours before it started, just to touch base with her on what time I was going to pick her up and stuff. So she said ok. So the night of the wedding comes and I go to pick her up and she was ready right on time, she looked really nice, she had bought a new dress and had her hair and nails done and all that.
So we get to the wedding, it was a night wedding starting at 8pm, so the one thing I was a bit concerned about was that she might feel uncomfortable there because she didn't really know anyone. Most of the people that were there were my friends and co-workers and I thought she might feel a little out of place. But when we got there one of my male co-workers who also came to the wedding brought a date with him and it turned out this his date and my date knew each other from high school. So it worked out pretty well that it turned out that there was someone else there she knew besides just me.
So at the wedding things went very well. She stayed with me the whole time. She only left me when she went outside to smoke(I dont smoke) and we danced together and talked and just basically had a very good time together that night but then at the end things got a little weird. The wedding ended late about 1:15am. Now me and her came together in my car alone, we live on the same block just a few houses away. So when the wedding ended the girl who was also there that she was friends with decided that she wasn't ready to go home yet and that she wanted to go out to a bar after the wedding. So she asked my date if she wanted to come with her so she said yes. So my date turns around to me after the wedding and shes like oh, I'm not going to be coming home with you because I am going to go out to the bar instead. Now honestly, this girl is somewhat of a party girl, plus shes only 22 and I knew all this about her long before this night. So was I surprised that she wanted to go out to a bar instead of going home? No,not at all. So the bar they were going to was within walking distance from where the wedding was so they walked there and she said she would call a cab when she was ready to go home. I am not a bar person. I barely drink, plus I had to be into work early the next morning so I was happy with just going home and getting some sleep after the wedding. So I really didn't consider going.
Now here is my dilemma...I kinda like this girl, I'm not exactly in love but I would like to try to start something with her. The whole point of taking her as my date to this wedding was an attempt to try to get the ball rolling with her. I don't really feel so much like she abandoned me that night because I look at it like this...I asked her to be my date for the wedding and my date is what she was. She stayed with me from start to finish and we had a good time and what she decided to do afterwards was entirely her business. I do admit that I felt a little irresponsible leaving her at 1:30am, I would have prefered to make sure that she got in her house safe that night considering that she had been drinking but I didn't exactly have that option. I also didn't expect anything to happen between me and her that night because a wedding isn't exactly a good first date but I was just looking for an excuse to hang out with her and I figured that if things went well that night we could always go out again at some pont in the future maybe to someplace more fitting like a movie or a restaurant.
So my question really is..How significant is it that she didnt come home with me from the wedding that night? Does it mean that she doesnt like me? or does it mean that she just enjoys partying and drinking so much that she had an opportunity to keep the night going so she said yes and went for it. I have seen her several times since the wedding and things actually seem better between me and her then before that night. She talks to me more and it seems like it made us a bit closer. I really want to try to hang out with her again but most of my friends think I should just forget about her because they are all like, well if she chose a bar over you then that should be an indication of her feelings..is that true? Could she still like me even though she didn't come home with me that night?
I'm kinda confused. Thank you all in advance.
