Re: New Update on ex is he playing head games with me?
Well, boy, my initial, knee-jerk reaction to your post would be "why in the WORLD do you NEED a man who never demostrated a love for you, who ignored you, took you for granted, treated you like crap and then took off twice without so much as a "have a nice life?" " But as someone who still yearns for someone who didn't treat me a whole lot better than your guy treated you, I can understand how one can get "addicted" to someone, or rather the feeling being with someone can cause. The endorphins and rush of seretonin and Oxytocin and other chemicals that your brain and glands produce when you're in love, the way they make you feel can be addictive. But you must understand that it's that rush, that feeling that you "need," not the man. Believe me, NO ONE needs a man who slams doors in their face, is rude and neglectful, a liar, and who takes off without a word. I strongly recommend a couple of books I recently read, He's Just Not That Into You and Why Men Love Bi***es. He knows how lousy he treated you, and believe it or not, he lost respect for you when you took it instead of kicking his butt out. For your own sake and for your daughter's sake, you need to forget about "getting him back" and start concentrating on building a life of your own that love and are so proud of that you would never again let such a jerk louse it up. If you have to rip the computer out of the wall, DO NOT reply to his email at all. DO NOT call him, write him, email him, or contact him again in any way. Just because he contacts you does not mean you then MUST contact him. He blew his chance. He was not worthy of you or your daughter's affections. I dont' tell you these things lightly, because I truly do understand just how hard it can be. It will take a great deal of hard work and commitment on your part, but c'mon, deep down inside you, you must know on some level that you really don't want to be treated the way he treated you for the rest of your life, right? So you know you really don't want him back. Focus on that to start with.