Well i have known her for about 3 years, but we never actually hung out, her name is Laura. We had a class together 3 years ago, and we talked a little bit, and then afterwards we stopped talking for awhile. Lately shes been randomly hugging me here and there in the hallways. Well my friend used to like her a lot, and he asked her out but she didnt accept (this was maybe 3 months ago). So lately she has been asking me to hang out with her, she put her number into my phone, and so forth.
Now my problem is that i THINK i may have a crush on her, and i probably do. But i doubt it would work out to begin with, in addition to my friend who likes her would probably hate me for quite a long time. There was another case where she dated another one of his friends instead of him, and it got pretty serious. He has been my friend for about 9 years now, if not more. Now i am pretty sure he would get really mad at me if i were to date her, considering the fact that i talk to many girls but i have only had one girlfriend. We went to see another movie last night, and alone this time (earlier it was with my friend), and she kept kind of leaning over to my side, probably expecting me to put my arm around her or something. Well last night i wasnt sure if i liked her or not, i mean i think shes kind of cute, but i didnt want to lead her on if i didnt even know my feelings. Afterwards i dropped her off and she insisted i go inside and meet her family.
So we can be very good friends, but im worried about dating her. Im not sure if i have a crush on her, if she has a crush on me (help me out, i think she does), and how my friend would react. Any advice will be appreciated.
And i realize alot of what i wrote doesnt make sense, its just a bunch of information boggled up in some random order, so if you have a question to help you help me out, let me know, ill be glad to answer it. Thanks in advance.
You don"t want to date a girl you have a crush on and her likewise ( both your actions show this), because your friend likes this girl. Obviously, she doesn"t think of him in the same way she does of you. Go for it.
It may cause some issues, but I'd say she's fair game for you to date if you want... and yes, she does seem to like you.
You can't avoid every girl that a friend might like... it's not like they were dating or she was promised to him or anything. He just liked her, but she doesn't seem to like him, sooooooo... what can you do? Not your fault.
Just realise it may cause some awkwardness, but if he is a real friend, he'll get over it.
I was in this situation with my first (and only) girlfriend. I met her through my other really good friend, possibly my second best friend just after this one im talking about, and he got really ****ed off and that relationship really ruined our friendship, but we're cool again now (nothing like we used to be though). But its pretty obvious she likes me, i just wanted a second opinion to make sure its not my mind just overreacting. She came over again today, and then after i got off work she wanted to get something to eat with me.
Now i need help decephering my feelings. It might just be because i havent had more than just one girlfriend, so i may be really forcing myself to like her. Im just not sure if i could date her though, there are things i dont like about her, but there are things i do like about her. I honestly cannot make my mind up, one day im about to decide that i have a crush on her (yesterday when i made this), and then the next day i decide that it wont work and i might even be forcing myself to like her because i havent had much luck with the girls i have wanted to be with(today).
No one can help you out with your feelings really. It's quite simple... you either like her or you don't.
The only thing I would recommend is to think about whether you like her or not without thinking about anything else... JUST HER. Don't worry about the friend issue, or whether it will work or not (no one can ever predict that), your inexperience or anything else you are worried about. Just think about her and whether you enjoy being with her and would like to pursue a relationship with her.
It's obvious she likes you. Hard part is over. Easy part is to decide whether you like her enough to want to have a relationship with her?
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