Good advice everyone. I'm in college, but despite being down-to-earth, and gracious (and I certainly don't mean to pat my self on the back or anything but it's hard to describe yourself in this setting so i'm just laying it on the table
) I've had a lot of trouble with the female race being threatened by me. Firstly, adult women threatened by a teenage girl showing horses, and more recently witchy girls in college who suddenly and severely burned me at the very end of two blissful, wonderful semesters as roommates.
I've shown horses for a long time, and I've meet (and grown up with) some really neat people. I am passionate for these horses and really accelled in it...
People are very complimentary for my accomplishments, talents, and even my looks. I am very flattered, and receive the compliments graciously, appropriately, and very modestly. I'm usually shy, quiet, and compassionate yet assertive and secure. I strive to never allow anyone a valid reason to have ammunition against me!
Despite being a stellar roomie and friend, and letting comments like "eat something Tiny Tim" roll off my back....that set the standard for giving them an inch and they would take a mile...and it continued to escalate until I finally stood up for myself in a certain situation and they blew up. (and I stood up for my self so appropriately
So pretty much, I was at a loss regarding what to do after you already do everything you're supposed to! I guess I need to be savvier. Nip it in the bud and create boundaries whilst still being grounded, down-to-earth, and amiable??
It is my perspective that people's poor behavior is a reflection on themselves. But it's still hard to cope and form genuine friendships. I guess you just have to be that confident, assertive, savvy, street-smart gal with personality whom people would be a jerk not to like. Any thoughts??