I'm so embarrassed to ask such a question, but I need some advice...I've always been very critical of myself and always felt I'm being judged, however, how can you relax while kissing someone? I feel like I'm too nervous and feel like I'm doing it wrong! Don't ask why b/c I can't answer!!
It's just the first few seconds I feel nervous...any idea on how to improve?
I think this topic is valid here. I am something of a nervous kisser. I tend to worry that the girl I am kissing will judge me against previous guys she's kissed. But it's a totally daft thing to worry about! Different people kiss in different ways. Some like a lot of tongue and some prefer more lip action but you tend to find a compromise and go with the flow. If you feel nervous then your nervousness will come across and spoil the moment so try your best to relax and enjoy the intimacy! Try to imagine that you are a famous actor/actress kissing on screen and that you have done it a million times. It's easy really, because kissing is like riding a bike - you never forget
My trick is to close your eyes or look down at his lips and through your nose smell his skin. Really enjoy who your with. Kiss him as if he is the biggest and hottest celebrity and you are playing out a scene in a movie. Kiss him gently and softly. Leave the hard stuff for the bed room. Learn to love that feeling of nervousness and butterflies, it's the best feeling and you don't get that feeling for long. The smell of his skin and the raw emotions should put you in the mood and not think of being nervous.
Nothing wrong with a nervous kiss! If it is only the first few seconds then don't worry about it. Eventually it will go away on it's own and one day you'll be just "kissing". Practice makes perfect! Well not really but it's nice to aim for that! Enjoy the person and the two of you will sort out the kiss.