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Old 12-29-2005, 04:52 PM   #1
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Unhappy Why come back into my life if we can never be together!

About 3 months ago a man from my past came back into my life and we started seeing each other and i fell in love with him. In case you havent read my preivous post a few days back 'it's gonna be lonely this xmas', well he basically just stopped calling or texting all of a sudden monday 2 weeks ago. He now wont answer my emails. calls, texts anything and i have no idea why. And to update you, he still hasn't. Didn't even return my text wishing him very xmas and hope he's ok.
Anyway, i just really wish he'd never come back into my life 3 months ago, as before then he was just a friend from my past where we emailed each other like once a month and that was it. Now after falling in love with him, he's all i can think about. I know i've got to try and get over him but i love him so much and really miss him. Hoped to spend the rest of my life with him. How can i get over him? Still can't believe it's really over. Once minute we're fine, chatting on the phone that monday night, the next - nothing. That's the hardest part really. BUt i guess he had his reasons and it just wasn't meant to be, although i still keep my phone with me every second of every day and just pray he realises how much he misses me and does want me and then contacts me again. Although i feel so very sad when i think he may never do that again...I've tried to keep busy but i just can't concentrate. I just want to sit down and daydream of him. Just can't get myself to do anything. I do i#m only young, 26 and i've got my whole life ahead of me, but i really thought he was 'the one' and don't want anyone else. Advice please? Will i ever get over him? Why come back into my life if we couldn't be together? It's not fair. Need cheering up please. It's really hard to get through the days without him. I've recently been thinking why carry on. Life is so hard sometimes....

 
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Old 12-29-2005, 05:24 PM   #2
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Re: Why come back into my life if we can never be together!

Destiny, You will get over him ONLY if you want to. First of all, stop saying to yourself "I can't". This is the key.
I coudn't yet read your previous posts...Do you keep yourself busy?
Sometimes, especially over holidays, I also feel so painfully in love or upset or..., but then this feeling goes away when I go back to work, or go to the library. It is probably so important to keep in nice company. Then try to set yourself little achievable targets that make you feel better about yourself...maybe go out and buy yourself your favourite perfume or go to a pub and treat yourself to a nice drink...
Most importantly, love yourself....and believe in yourself as a person. It is his LOSS, such an inconsiderate person....
Why did you break up first time? Or was he only an acquaintance from the past?

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Old 12-29-2005, 05:58 PM   #3
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Re: Why come back into my life if we can never be together!

hi ya, he was just an aquaintance from the past as you put it. I used to work for a storage company 4 years ago and he had a unit there and so would pop into receptionm every now and then and i'd see him. At the time i was in a long term relationship (ended a year ago though) so wouldnt have been interested anyway although i did fancy him. And it's only when our paths met years later that he admitted he's really fancied me back and was kind of obsessed with me. So it makes me wonder how someone that has been so keen on me for so long, can forget me this easily.

 
Old 12-29-2005, 08:53 PM   #4
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Re: Why come back into my life if we can never be together!

Have you tried to call someone who knows him, like a friend or family member? I would first want to make sure that nothing did, in fact, happen to him. I mean, this is so strange. do you think he could have it in him to be so cold blooded and rude??

 
Old 12-30-2005, 06:40 AM   #5
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Re: Why come back into my life if we can never be together!

yes i did try. I'm too scared to call his mobile though in case he answers and it'll look a bit obvious if i just hang up, but i called his work last week and they checked his schedule and said he was out on visits till the friday but then he would be back in. So i assume if something had happened to him, they would have said something. I tried his work yesterday again as well but they're closed over xmas which i did think they may be, but guess who's voice came on the answer phone! Let me just say, that really didn't help me....Hearing his voice and not knowing if i will ever see him or talk to him again.....God i miss him so much.

 
Old 12-30-2005, 08:32 AM   #6
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Re: Why come back into my life if we can never be together!

So you sent him emails, asked him what was going on, and he just ignored them??? Unfortunately, it looks like he's alive Which means he's doing this by his conscious choice. Which makes him a horrible, horrible man. You didn't do anything to deserve this; nobody deserves this kind of treatment. At the very least, he could have told you that it's not going to work out, wished you well, etc. There's just no excuse for his cowardly act. Every time you miss him, please remind yourself what kind of a lowly person he is. I know it's hard, but in time you will be able to see him in a clearer light. Stay strong.

 
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