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Old 12-30-2005, 01:18 PM   #1
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Did I do the right thing?

I broke up with my bf of 6 months because I feel our relationship is not growing due to the fact that he wouldn't introduce me to different aspects of his life (even though he tells me about them). He said he is not ready as yet but said he "will change", and will do that for me in the future once he is ready. In the mean time, he is not seeing anybody else and wants me around. I feel frustrated and hurt so I broke it off. Am I too impatient or is he selfish?

 
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Old 12-31-2005, 07:18 PM   #2
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Re: Did I do the right thing?

If you are looking for something permanent with having a bf, then it can be frustrating when the bf doesn't "cooperate". But he does have a right to not share things as he wishes. But if he tells you about them, but doesn't show them to you, and it bothers you, tell him that you don't want to hear about it. You don't have to necessarily break up with your bf, but you can slow things down a bit until he figures out what he wants. Maybe just enjoy each other's company as friends for a little while. You can't expect him to change when you want him to, but if he is willing, perhaps you can be supportive of the change on HIS time. Or just back off for a little while until you both figure out what exactly you want. It doesn't mean that you have to cut off all contact with him, but don't create something that isn't there.

 
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Old 01-01-2006, 01:55 AM   #3
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Re: Did I do the right thing?

It should be a compromise. Neither of you are right or wrong. For whatever reasons (has he said why?), he does not feel ready to share certain aspects (what aspects are we talking about here - might help to be specific), and that really is his decision, especially as you have not been together for a very long time. If you feel wronged and that he is not worth waiting for, then of course you have every right to make the decision to leave. But if you really love each other... compromise and open communication would probably help resolve the situation for both parties, as would a little patience and understanding.
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Old 01-01-2006, 03:14 AM   #4
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Re: Did I do the right thing?

Thanks for the reply.

I acted on an impulse and I really do regret breaking it off with him. I know I was a little impatient and weren't understanding enough. But now everything is too late. I send him a text message today telling him that I love him and sorry about what I did. He is completely ignoring me. Ok. I deserve it. Any ideas on what I can do to show him I'm truly sorry? The thought that we may never be together again hurts me so bad.

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Old 01-01-2006, 03:50 AM   #5
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Re: Did I do the right thing?

Are we talking about his family or children here?

 
Old 01-01-2006, 04:58 AM   #6
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Re: Did I do the right thing?

It's his family.

 
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