Originally Posted by goody2shuz
And what business is it of your husband's who your parents decide to sell their house to & what price they sold it at??? I see alot of red flags here and I suggest that you let your husband know that he has no business controlling who you want to see on your birthday or otherwise.
I couldn't agree more. Go to dinner with your parents. Tell your husband with or without him, you are going and let him decide to stay home if he wants.
This is not, in my personal opinion, anything to break up a family over.
Life is too short to get worked up over material possesions. I know all about struggling, and understand that all to well, but it's nothing to turn your back on your family about.
How do YOU feel about your family selling the house to your brother?
Do you (or should I say does your husband) know all the details here?
Did your brother already own a house that he sold to move here? Did you ever express an interest in wanting to buy it? I know it's so simple to say "well, who wouldn't want to buy a house below market value", but sometimes it could be as simple as your brother making a comment in wanting to do so to just start the ball rolling. Whereas, if you've never expressed anything in those regards, people just may not stop and think. I wouldn't go assuming it's anything personal against you - which is maybe what you should tell your husband.
Have your parents been there for you in other ways? How do you know they won't make some great gesture towards you in the future? Do you want to turn your back and risk losing that opportunity?
I know this is your husband's issue, but if any of these instances could be true, you need to discuss these things with him.
Quite personally, if it were me, I would tell him he can feel any way he wants about it, but I am not going to cut contact with my family. If he wants to do so, then go right ahead, he doesn't have to visit them, but don't try to decide my feelings for me.
I would leave it go at that and close the door to discussion. (This is of course aftered you have determined he is not willng to compromise on the issue). If you make it clear that this is your issue, not his, and that you are not bothered by it (unless you are) and aren't willing to give into his behavior, I'd imagine, given time, he will come around and let things go.
But you gotta put your foot down first.