I need your urgent help on something that I have been thinking about for the last couple of nights.
I have a very close female friend living in Holland. She was my best best mate since we both were children.
She has a 2-year-old daughter to a kno*head. After 3 years of her marriage to him (both of them are foreigners in Holland but he's lived there for 20 years, she only when they got married), he turned out to be a real beast. Last Summer, he hit her so brutally and got arrested. She dropped charges because he was the father of her only daughter, but once he was out he kidnapped her daughter for a week. She was sleeping only with tablets. She told me that she used to get up at night screaming like mad until she was eventually re-united with her daughter. Since then, she has been living in their house (which is his) but the court gave her the house and custody of the daughter. He now sees his daughter through social services. She is an absolutely wonderful person, specialist doctor (but didn't have the chance to work there yet because of language limitations, although recently she passed the language exams with flying colours), she has always helped me materially when she worked back Home, and she's so soft and really very much liked among all our friends.
Now her divorce is proceeding in court, but this jerk seems to have succeded in making her softer since then. I understand how weak despite being hurt she must have felt. But I really really really don't want her back with him, he's a real jerk!!!
Ok here's my dilemma,days before their big problem happened she asked me whether I could book a flight for the three of them to come over to England to stay with his family. She had no credit card then (not even money) and I sensed that she was in danger and I thought that his family might be able to calm the situation down, so I booked the flights and sent her the reference number. I heard him on the phone swearing at her and saying that he would never fly. He called me bi**h and everything! I ended up having flight vouchers from the company and I asked her to come over to mine many times after what had happened to her, but she couldn't.
Few nights ago, she asked me whether I could book for HIM????
flights with this voucher!!!!!!
She said that rather wasting the vouchers, she would ask him to give her the money and send it to me!!!! Now I am almost sure that she will try to pay out of her own pocket. I guess he wants to see his family and she wants him to do so.
I am not at all bothered about the money bit, but I would rather throw them in the bin than book for an ar******le like him!!!! I feel so sorry for herand I can't really blame her because this woman has had more than enough of violence and unfair treatment. I was really afraid she would break down at some point.
I don't want to disappoint her but I hate this jerk more than I can describe, sorry about the long post but please advice me on what to do!!!!