I have been in a relationship with a guy for just a few months. We do both have very very strong feelings for eachother and get on really well. We spend a LOT of time together...
However he seems very 'needy' and I can't understand why. We have both said we feel strongly about one another and that we feel this has a strong chance of a great future together, even though its only early days.
I tell him that I love him often, at least a few times a day! But he regularly get's "paranoid" that I'm not happy with him. He has said that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me etc. etc. and goes into this big, long, sentimental ramble.
That is romantic and nice, I know ... but he said that he is the kinf of person who NEEDS to hear me say those things back to him ... and I am just not like that. I'm realistic ... I do love him and I do see a future but I don't see the point in huge whimsical lovey rubbish lol. I can understand that it is a nice thing to hear ... but I think that there is a problem when he feels that he NEEDS to be told that, despite me saying I love him regularly.
He has said that he'll often get worried and think that I'm planning on breaking up with him for NO reason ... I don't change my behaviour but he gets paranoid regardless. And it's only a few months ..... he shouldn't need me to constantly tell him I want to spend the rest of my life with him an so on after so little time together... surely?
I just need an outside opinion. I don't understand why he is so emotionally needy already. He likes to spend most of his time with me and honestly misses me incredibly when we're apart for just a day or so.
Should I be more forthcoming with my emotions? Express myself more? Does he have some kind of subconscious 'issue' that he needs to deal with?
I really don't understand it. I'm happy being told I'm loved.
Thanks for reading! x