Originally Posted by InLove4Real
. But I can't say that I haven't been feeling different about this relationship. Sometimes I find myself thinking about other men and wanting to meet other guys but I haven't because I have put so much time into this, I don't want to ruin it.
I really love him but I am starting to have doubts on if this is going to last.
I agree with Erimus....it sounds as if "you've lost that feeling"!!! I have been married for 18 years now and still feel the passion (although not to the same degree as when we first met, but still both my husband & I do experience great passion with one another.) And as Music says...passion comes in many forms not just sexual. In fact it is the passion for life and common interests that I find the most rewarding type
If you are feeling different and find yourself thinking about other men and wanting to meet other guys, that is a pretty good sign that you are definitely looking for more than what you have in this relationship. And to stick around just because of the time you have invested to only add another day, month, year of unfulfillment to your life is only settling for less than you want or need in your life.
I think it is time to really think about how this relationship fulfills you.....I have a feeling that your lack of fulfullment is demonstrated in the bedroom as well and that there is a good chance that he has picked up on this as well. Not to dismiss that there may be other reasons that he "couldn't rise to the occasion" such as stress, alcohol, smoking and other external factors.
From your post....it sounds as if you are looking for so much more than you have in this relationship of 4 years. There is more to marriage than just sharing the same ideas and being good parent material. It's being with someone who makes you feel confident and good about yourself. Of course you have to start out feelng that way to begin with.
I think that you need to make a decision and stick with it......but do not allow the time you have invested to be the deciding factor. The thing is, if you make a bad investment, it is a general rule to get out and reinvest what you got into something you know will increase in value before you lose it all. You need to look at this relationship in such a way.
Good luck and let us know how things go ~ Goody