Originally Posted by midblue_alone
what is the real meaning of marriage ? every marriage has ups and downs i know that.I just want to ask all the people who would read this. Do you have to stick to your marriage eventhough you are not enjoying sex with your partner ? My husband is responsible,hard -working,cares for me and my family. What is the most important thing about being married ?
Can you please talk about marriage or your situations with your married life ?
Hey MA -
I really hate to sound like a cop out, but I think this means something different to everyone. EVeryone has different needs and has different expectations from marriage. Some people would be fine without having any sex at all, other people would rather die than be stuck in a marriage without sex. But I think it's really hard to be happy with someone else when you're not happy with yourself first. I think we all need to feel loved and accepted in order to be happy, to feel like we matter to someone, that we have a place in this world, but people can be pretty cold, and without first having some sort of inner compass to tell us what's right and wrong for us, it's easy to get lost. I've never been married, but thought I came close once, and I think the reason why it didn't work is because first, we were both pretty unhappy with out lives at the time, and second, I wasn't strong enough and didn't have enough faith in myself to leave when I knew I should have, and I got hurt much worse than I would have if I had only been true to myself from the very start.
I think first of all, you need to be fully informed. If there is any way you can consult with a lawyer who specializes in immigration and naturalization or if you could just go down to the office of immigration and ask for information, maybe they have a catalog or booklet on what all your options are as far as your ability to continue living and working in the country if you divorce your husband. I think you will feel much happier if you feel you are choosing to stay with your husband because you want to and that's where your heart truly lies, rather than choosing it because you feel you're stuck and have no other options.