I found out 4 days before Xmas that my husband met a woman in Hong Kong and maintained an online relationship with her for a month!
What happened was, every November he has to go to Hong Kong for 3 weeks business. We've been friends for 5 years, married for 2. I completely trust(ed) him... Never doubted him. When he got back from this most recent trip, he changed his mind about having children, and started accusing me all the time of cheating on him. Finally I said "DO YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO HIDE?!"
That made me do the unthinkable! I snooped through his laptop! I found a hotmail account he had set up two days after he got back from Hong Kong... I got onto his email and saw this lady was emailing him things like " I love you, you are so important to me" stuff like that! Then I snooped on and found a bunch of pictures of her on his computer.
Because it was so close to Xmas I didn't mention it, But we had a 2 week trip to Europe planned, so I brought it up on Xmas morning (stoopid me) he cried and cried. Told me that they did not do anything in Hong Kong (she worked with him for three weeks) and that it was strictly an ONLINE relationship ... it still hurts though, is that concidered cheating?
Europe went OK. I am very distant to him now, and can't treat him the same, but it IS still fresh for me... We talk about it lots, and are going into counceling. But he insists he did not cheat ... I say "You told another woman you loved her! to me that is just as bad"
what do you think? *sorry it's so long!*