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Old 01-29-2006, 10:48 AM   #1
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What the...?

I am good friends with a guy who has told me he likes me before, we hooked up once but then I didn't want to after that but we were still friends for awhile and everything was normal. We hung out a lot. He just sent me a text message (I'll translate it into english the) that says "I don't want to see you anymore. Don't come to my house or my store. Your opportunity has passed. and please seek help because you are sick. Goodbye, take care."

What???

 
Old 01-29-2006, 12:36 PM   #2
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Promise me you wont ever talk to this guy again...please...

Ive hurt myself so bad and I regret it beyong belief- by not picking up on warning signs given off by my ex...

Please ignore him and never talk to him again unless he has a good reason as to why he sent you that awful message (eg someone else sent it from his phone- but thats prollly not the case).

 
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Old 01-29-2006, 01:10 PM   #3
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Hey, he has responded since I wrote that finally, he said "you know what I wanted wasn't pain, but there is pain - if we can't both win then there isn't a deal - i would have made you feel very alive."

So I guess what he's saying is that if he can't have a relationship with me more than friendship then he doesn't want anything at all?

 
Old 01-29-2006, 01:32 PM   #4
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Is this the same guy who carried you home when your feet hurt, or a different guy?

 
Old 01-29-2006, 02:13 PM   #5
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I think youre right digmusic...what other reason(s) could there be?

 
Old 01-29-2006, 02:29 PM   #6
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It seems kind of obvious that he never stopped liking you, and although he may have acted normal on the surface, deep down he was secretly hoping that you would fall in love with him. Now he seems to have finally realized that the two of you are never going to get back together again, and it is crushing him. I think it would probably be best for you guys to just go your own ways, it is probably too hard for him to be around you, at least until he heals.

 
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no this isn't the feet guy sophia, this is my friend Pablo. He is older than me, he is 26 and he has been my good friend for awhile. I really like him but I guess I can't be friends anymore, that makes me sad and a little mad too. Because I don't want to get in bed with him I can't have his friendship?

 
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Because I don't want to get in bed with him I can't have his friendship?
I think it is probably more than that. It seems like this friend genuinely likes you, and has some pretty deep feelings. When you like someone so much, but you know they do not feel as strongly about you...then it is really tough to be around them, it just makes your heart hurt all the time.

I would just let him go for awhile. Maybe once he gets over you and finds a girlfriend, then he will be able to be your friend again. It always sucks when situations get so messy like this!

 
Old 01-29-2006, 03:57 PM   #9
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I think it is probably more than that. It seems like this friend genuinely likes you, and has some pretty deep feelings. When you like someone so much, but you know they do not feel as strongly about you...then it is really tough to be around them, it just makes your heart hurt all the time.

I would just let him go for awhile. Maybe once he gets over you and finds a girlfriend, then he will be able to be your friend again. It always sucks when situations get so messy like this!
I agree with Gypsy, go easy on him, and give him the space he needs to get over you. Anything else would be selfish, now that you know his feelings.

 
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I don't know, I can certainly understand it from his position, don't get me wrong, but he's acting like I'm making some huge mistake and he's cutting off the friendship entirely. I think that's selfish on his part as well. It's not my fault that I don't want to sleep with him. And I know he wants more than that, but he told me once not to come over if we were "just going to talk." So I think the sex or lack of has a lot to do with it.

 
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Aww I know it seems really selfish of him but maybe he just cant handle it? It must have been difficult for him to push him to do this?

 
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I don't know, I can certainly understand it from his position, don't get me wrong, but he's acting like I'm making some huge mistake and he's cutting off the friendship entirely. I think that's selfish on his part as well. It's not my fault that I don't want to sleep with him. And I know he wants more than that, but he told me once not to come over if we were "just going to talk." So I think the sex or lack of has a lot to do with it.
Another jerk alert. What is wrong with all these guys feeling so ENTITLED to have sex with women without making any commitment or without an actual relationship??? I think your instincts are correct--if someone was so quick to dismiss you because you're "only willing to talk," then the hell with him. Wait for a guy who will treat you with respect and will wait as long as it takes for the intimacy part. That should help weed out the players.

 
Old 01-30-2006, 10:22 AM   #13
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I agree with Sophia. This guy's a jerk. He's angry at you for not wanting the same thing as him. He needs to grow up. Do yourself a favor and just cut him loose. You'll be doing him a favor as well.

 
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well I guess I can understand his frustration but hey, he didn't have to say horrible things like that ... what a loser ?! ...

 
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well I guess I can understand his frustration but hey, he didn't have to say horrible things like that ... what a loser ?! ...
I know, it's like he was acting like such a great friend to me and when he realized nothing more was going to happen he just sort of turned into this angry bitter mean-spirited person. I hate losing friends but he isn't acting like a friend to me so I guess I'll just respect his wishes and leave him alone.

 
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