awful evening - Relationship Health Message Board

charlatans · 01-30-2006, 04:34 PM

oh no. ive had an awful evening. was listening to my friend talk about not loving his girlfriend and staying with her only to keep her hapy otherwise she'd be distraught and how nothing serious is going to happen as she wants because he says hes too young and no guy wants a serious relationship at 21. He said hes happy to cheat on her and wouldnt feel bad.
This makes me think about my ex- maybe he thoughtt that way about me
then i had some sleezy guy follow me around.
then my bestfriend (a guy) had a argument with me saying how i started seeing his friend last year (only for one week) to get back at him for a disagreement we had last year and how i tried to turn this friend agaisnt him. I honestly didnt.

i never thought id ask myself this question but- are there any decent guys out there?

GypsyArcher · 01-30-2006, 04:42 PM

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was listening to my friend talk about not loving his girlfriend and staying with her only to keep her hapy otherwise she'd be distraught and how nothing serious is going to happen as she wants because he says hes too young and no guy wants a serious relationship at 21. He said hes happy to cheat on her and wouldnt feel bad.

Wow. If only all guys could be so classy.

How can you stand to even be around somebody so disgusting? I would have given him a yoooooge piece of my mind.

Sure there are decent guys out there. But the way to find them is to weed out the bad ones early but not putting up with any crap. If all of the guys you know are losers, then maybe you need to upgrade your social circle. If you project of sense of knowing yourself and demanding respect from guys, then that is the kind of guy you will attract. The losers will stay away from you, because they will know that they cannot take advantage of you or play with your mind. You have to know who you are, know what you deserve, and not put up with anything less.

OutToLunch · 01-30-2006, 05:09 PM

There are decent guys out there. I consider myself one of them. But GypsyArcher is right. The bad ones are a product of their experience. These men act this way cause too many women let them get away with it. Set high standards for how you want men to treat you. If that eliminates a big chunk of the pool, so what? You're better off alone than with some guy who doesn't treat you with the respect you deserve. I've learned this the hard way.

LIVING IN HOPE · 01-30-2006, 05:33 PM

It appears your part of a casual group of young people who have decided that nothing in life is permanent and guess what - it isn't.

GypsyArcher · 01-30-2006, 06:10 PM

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nothing in life is permanent and guess what - it isn't.

That may be true. But still, it doesn't mean that people should act like giant flaming turds. Although when you are young like that, you do tend to. That is why a lot of us grow up, thank god. I'm glad I'm not 20 anymore, or 21. Well... I am only 23, but two years can make a biiiiiig difference.