My b/f of almost 2 years wants to go to the daytona beach motorcylce rally next month then make his way slowly down to the keys then end up at his brothers house at the end of the month meaning he will be gone all month. He's riding his bike the whole way.
I would go if i could but work and son it just isnt possible so he asked if he could go and i know he really wants to go so i said yes. am i nuts? do i trust him? as much as anyone can trust another person yes. we dont have any issues we do not live together im 42 he is 53 we spend every night together whether at his house or mine.
would you be ok with this? anyone else dealt with this before? did it turn out ok?
Yes, I would be ok with it. I can't even believe he "asked your permission" rather than simply sharing his plans with you. He's a grown man who doesn't need anyone's permission to do anything.
People who don't give their SO room to breath outside of the relationship end up miserable later on. So, yeah, he should go.
He is your boyfriend, not your husband. He asked you to go and you can't, so I don't see anything wrong with him going. It's not like you're married to him and he's bailing out and leaving you with young children for a month, or anything like that. Unless you think he's going with another woman...
One more thing--I don't know how slowly he plans to ride, but Daytona is not that far from the Keys--maybe a couple of hundred miles at most. That is one trip that shouldn't take a month.
That was very respectful of him to ask. I would have no choice, but to be ok with it if we were not married and there were no children or other shared responsibilities.
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Originally Posted by tertree
My b/f of almost 2 years wants to go to the daytona beach motorcylce rally next month then make his way slowly down to the keys then end up at his brothers house at the end of the month meaning he will be gone all month. He's riding his bike the whole way.
I would go if i could but work and son it just isnt possible so he asked if he could go and i know he really wants to go so i said yes. am i nuts? do i trust him? as much as anyone can trust another person yes. we dont have any issues we do not live together im 42 he is 53 we spend every night together whether at his house or mine.
would you be ok with this? anyone else dealt with this before? did it turn out ok?
I'd be okay with it. I live an hour outside of Daytona, and Bike Week actually goes on for three weeks, one week before, one after and then the big, official "Bike Week" itself. I have bikers on both sides of me as neighbors, good guys, married with kids, who take time to enjoy the festivities. There are some bars that can get rowdy, but there's a lot of good, clean fun, as well. Both neighbors take a month to go to Sturgis (sp?) for their big biker celebration up there.
Also, from Daytona to Key West on a motorcycle would be at least a six- to seven-hour ride, possibly more depending on traffic/construction once you hit the Jupiter exit in South Florida. Bikers usually ride very slowly and cautiously during the long stretch of I-95 in South Florida due to unfamiliar tourists on the roads and the high numbers of foreigners on the roads who aren't familiar with our ways of driving. I'm an hour north of Daytona, and it takes me five hours (in a car, not a bike) doing 75 to get to Fort Lauderdale, which is still several hours north of the Keys. There are also many keys. Isle Morada is much further north than, say, Key West.
As an aside, DH and I are hitting Disney for a week during Bike Week (Disney's about 45 minutes to an hour away from Daytona), and we asked our neighbor if he thought the parks would be crowded. I initially thought no, but he said absolutely, yes. Bikers from all over the country hook their bikes up to their tow hitches, pack up the families and stay in Orlando. This way, the moms and kids can enjoy the parks at Disney, the hubbies/men go and check out the bikes, then they all meet back in the afternoons for Disney fun or family fun over at Daytona. You mentioned you have a child, who might have a blast at Disney.
Just wanted to throw that out there (I must have been a travel agent in a previous life...wink, wink). Completely understandable, tho, if funds/time off isn't there or you'd be uncomfortable suggesting this. Might be something to plan for next year, tho!
I think it's really sweet that he was so respectful in asking about the trip, first. I'm sure after 2 years he's probably used to being around you and your son, pretty cool he talked to you about this rather than just rudely saying "I'm going to do this, see ya." Ahh, the bonus' of age!! Kudos to you on the thoughtful bf.
I don't think you're crazy at all, and I don't think you think you're crazy either. Obviously you trust him, and though you'll miss him understand this is something fun that he'd like to do. Sounds like a comfortable relationship to me!
thanks i think im just having a bit of seperation anxiety lol he has taken short trips before and i get nervouse previous to them but once he is back im find and actually while he is gone im fine its just the big send off that i get anxious on.he recently retired so he has the time and the means to do this and i think it is a chance in a lifetime for him to do it so i want to support him and i sure wish i could go but its just not feasible right now but next year lol
we are also taking a month long vacation in june just the three of us he, myself and my son so we arent being left out of trips.
when he asked had i said no he would have said ok i wont go but who am i to hold him back from doing something he really really wants to do. he supports me on my changes in life like i just quit my full time job to become employeed for myself and he was a successfull business man and he has taught me alot and is always there when i need him so i guess this is my way of giving back to him.
I would be ok with this. I'm married with a child, and my husband and I do seperate trips like this at least once a year. I think it's healthy to spent time apart doing your own things every so often. I don't he needed to ask permission, my husband and I are married but we wouldn't ask permission, we would just talk about how things would work what with childcare and stuff when the other is gone.
Thanks for the replies. He only asked because this is our first major seperation of this length and he wanted to make sure it wouldnt cause us any problems had i said no to that part of his trip then he would not have gone and just rode down to his brothers at the end of the month to meet up with his family. He could have just said hey im gonna go see you in april lol he has an oppurtunity not many men get. he retired early has the means to do basically whatever he wants so im glad he asked and im glad hes going just wished i could go too lol and Ill miss him lots!!
You have to be Ok with it. While he is gone, have a full and rich social life with your friends. Let him call you from the road first. Let him have his fun. You go and have yours. You will have lots of fun and interesting stories to tell each other when he gets back.
