I get what everyone is saying and I agree. I'm not saying I wouldn't date anyone older than me, what I'm saying from my experiences hanging around people and getting to know them, age plays a big factor in relationships for women I've known. I didn't mean to generalize the idea.
Like I said before, I liked a person older than me and pursued it, it just didn't go where I thought it should go.
I don't have standards for women; as long as they are relaxed, knows how to laugh and smile and under my weight limit, I can date them I don't really care about facial features etc. I mostly care about the mentality they bring to the relationship.
But seriously, though, I am the type of person who takes things toooo seriously and gets worked up easily. These "immature" guys are much more laid back, relaxed, and low key... It's a good thing for me to be around. It tones me down and reminds me to relax once in a while.
I think it is the perfect balance for my personality. (It's just too bad they can't handle my seriousness)
I was in a similar space as you were at one point in my life. After divorcing my "older" husband, I didn't know what I wanted at that time. So, I dated... age didn't matter, the person who I was getting to know matter.
Sounds to me that you need to do the same, find what you want, find what you're comfortable with and get to know the person.
Oh, and as for the younger men I'd dated, they pursued me, I didn't pursue them... and they're fun! Most men my age are full of themselves... they're stuffy, too serious, they're intimidated by women like me and they need someone to stroke their egos and I'm not one to compliment someone unless it's tru. The young men thought I was their age... besides, I knew I wasn't going to marry them... what's the harm in having fun, right? That's why it's called "dating". Relax, chill, have fun and go out there! Don't take things too seriously. Women are attracted to men who are fun and relaxed... there are enough "seriousness" in life. Look at the whole woman.
I'm 26 and my husband is 34.
He does not try to control me in anyway whatsoever.
He DOES try to guide me, through his personal experience of growing up, but that can't be used as a misconception of "controlling".
It's really no different than if he were in his mid 20's like myself.
We still have a younger outlook, and do the same things like attend concerts, go drag racing, etc.
I wouldn't be so hung up on age. Of course there are people out their who are older, and will be controling, same also applies for young people.
It's basically just the nature of their character.