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Old 07-28-2006, 09:55 PM   #1
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Grass is always greener...

I need to know if there's something wrong with me having to do with relationships, or whether any of you guys feel the same.

I feel like I'm always happy in relationships for a while, and I've had my fair share of long term ones for being so young (22). I just feel that after a certain amount of time being commited to one individual, no matter how great they may be, I'm just never satisfied. It's not necessarily that I have the urge to be alone or single and independent or anything, it's more like the grass is always greener. I'll be with a girl for a while, and start wondering if there's other girls that would be more compatible with me, or be better sexually, have more in common with me, etc. etc.

The problem is that, I don't really feel like much is wrong with the girls I date. I can't really pinpoint exact reasons that things don't work out, other than a strong desire that something is missing or that it's just getting too stale/boring. It's not that I dont' try to keep things exciting; I'm a pretty active, sporty person that is always on the go and starting up new activities and excursions. Yet things still seem to always get old and tired, leaving me looking for something better.

Does this sound like me just being disillusioned by relationships or something? Am I too young or immature to deal with being in a long term relationship? I always feel like something is wrong with me, rather than the person I date. Sometimes I feel like no matter how awesome a girl I meet, I'll always still be looking for something else. Does anyone else feel this way?

 
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Old 07-29-2006, 03:15 AM   #2
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Re: Grass is always greener...

I dont think your immature, a lot of ppl your age are like that..im 21 and i know what you mean..all of my relationships, i would stay in for quite a while and then id push myself away before it got serious and then i found the guy i really thought was right..i would have stayed with him the rest of my life if i could have...in fact, i just had his child 9 days ago.unfortunately, were too different and hes too immature right now for me to be with. But if any of the girls you dated in the past were meant to be for you, it would have lasted..believe me, when you meet the right girl it will last..you wont leave her because of any reason what so ever and you really wont even care about meeting other girls and seeing what else is out there..give it time, it will happen!

 
Old 07-29-2006, 05:51 AM   #3
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Re: Grass is always greener...

Hi Nick, no your behaviour is totally normal for a guy your age. Say if you were to stay with any one girl for a long time, then get married, and the marraige then to not work out, people may say, you married to young, you hadn't dated enough girls to know what compatible meant!

My dad got married at 19 and his wife 17, five years later they divorced. When he later remarried and had me, I remember when I was growing up my dad telling me to date as many guys as possible, to get to know who was right for me. (not suggesting I was to sleep with them ofcourse, just to date).

I would say that once you have matured enough, and got through this stage, you will naturally find the right girl, and want to settle down.

The phrase settle down, is just that, at the moment you are not ready to settle with one.

Have fun whilst your still young.

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Old 07-29-2006, 06:07 AM   #4
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Re: Grass is always greener...

Nick-
I agree with the others. You are still young, and it's not good to just hop right in to a commited relationship if you aren't ready. That's part of the learning/growing process.

Why settle down until you are absolutely sure you are with the right one? Some people are more commitment minded and don't date around, and then others, like yourself want to experience the dating scene to it's fullest and there is nothing wrong with that. It's a matter of how you choose to go about finding "the one".

Don't worry so much about it. When the time comes, the "right one" will sneak up on you and you'll find yourself not even thinking about how green the grass is on the other side.

Lezlee

 
Old 07-29-2006, 09:37 AM   #5
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Re: Grass is always greener...

My husband was 33 yrs old before we met.
So, technically none of HIS relationships were right either until then.

Take your time. You could have years to go before you meet the right person.
Get to know people and if it doesn't work out you're only the wiser for it.
By the time you meet the right girl you'll be the right person for HER, too!!

 
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