On the face of it, I have quite good realtionship with my husband, but it is all just a cover up. We have been together for 17 years and have 3 kids together.we have had some behaviour problems with our son, which led to our daughter also having some issues,but that has improved lately.
My problem is that I feel like I am either living with my brother or my Dad. My husband is forever picking fault with the things I do, he even corrects me in public places, which is embarrasing. he never really shows me any love, and we haven't had sex at home for 2 years,the last time was almost a year ago on holiday. I just cannot bring myself to approach him for even a cuddle,as I am scared he will reject me.
We just seem to plod on for the kids sakes, but I am desperate for more than this, it is really getting me down. I have put on a bit of weight over the years, so i don't know if that is the reason.
I guess the first question that comes to me, that seems obvious but is always more difficult than we give it credit, is... well, have you talked to your husband about this distance? About your unhappiness? Your concerns?
The space between you will only grow if you both let it, and it doesn't sound like anyone has stepped up to just put themselves out there to find out what's going on and why this is happening. Step one is communication, you really do need to talk to him and see what's going on - and if he has any ideas of how the two of you can fix whatever it is, together. If you don't know what to do, maybe you should consider marriage counselling... getting this out in the open is the most important first step to take, until then you really don't know what to work with...
