How do you do tell if someone is interested or not interested in you? I have been hometaught for most of my life and honestly, it has made me really naive about when a guy is interested or when he is not interested. So often, I tend to think someone IS interested and they end up not wanting to go on a date or a second date with me. It's really impacted my self-esteem, because I get rejection over and over again.
How can I tell they ACTUALLY like me? Body language.. what they say.. how they act.. etc?
Is it safe to say that if they don't ask you out, they aren't interested, period? I don't want to face anymore rejection! I know this is a tough question to answer, but I'd really be appreciative of any help.
Hi Amy,
one way to combat the "is he or isnt he" is to turn the focus back on you.
ask yourself, am I or arent I interested in him?
If you meet someone you like concentrate on finding out more about him. If youd like to go out on a date, think about asking him! Guys dont like rejection either so the more signs you can give them that you are interested the more relaxed they are about asking you for a date.
Usually, if a guy is interested in you, he will want to be around you. But maybe you need to create opportunities for him to be around so that you can get to know each other, and he can ask you out.
If you want to give a guy a signal that you are attracted to him, one of the biggest cues is to smile and make eye contact with him as a clear indication that you are captured by him and have taken an interest.
Think of questions about him to ask and he will know you are taking an interest. If he becomes interested in you he should reciprocate this.
Dating and flirting really is a game, or a dance if you like, and it takes two people to develop a relationship. Concentrate on what you need to do and hopefully your guy will follow your lead.
This is a veryconfusing game. I'm a man and I can't read man either.
They don't necessarily say or do things from the heart. They might not intend to hurt anyone, but they do give the wrong signals to get reactions for their self evaluations.
I agree with the last post. First ask yourself if you are interested in a particular person, then observe him when you are with him. Whether in a group setting or one on one.
Body languages like eye contacts, smiles and playful touches are positive indicators. Also, does he spend more time with you than others in a group settings? Does he try sitting next to you? Does he ask for your opinion before others? Does he eardrop on you while you're talking with other people?
Some guys are shy and never makes the first move. You might need to give them more than hints and opportunities.
Just use any excuse to exchange phone numbers with them. If they don't call first, call them!
There is NO escape from rejection in the courtship dance.
Just don't go blaming yourself for any it. There is no 100%black and white, right or wrong situations in relationships. So, never let yourself or anybody lay guilt trips on you.
Hi Amy, I'm a guy and I can give you my advice about what guys do and how they act when they are interested in girls. First, even though we supposidly live in very modern times, it STILL is and probably ALWAYS will be the guys duty to ask a girl out when they are interested. Of course, some girls do take it upon themselves to ask guys out however, most of the time, it is the guy usually making the first move.
This isn't to say that a shy guy couldn't be waiting in the wings, but is too afraid you'll reject him. There are certainly plenty of guys like that in the world, especially under 18. If you suspect that about someone, there is only one thing to do and that is to give him 'buying signals'. It basically means that girls have to make some effort to show they are interested too, but as most women are anyway, it has to be very subtle...just enough to show interest without showing desperation.
Ok, so a guy asks you out. BING! That means he is interested...but, in what?! That's the million dollar question. The only way to know that is to take your time with him. A good guy who genuinely cares about you will take a couple of months to get to know you really well...he'll continuely ask you out every week, call you all the time, and make his presence known. Of course, you give back just as much as he does too...you call him just as often and except most if not all of his offers to go out. Guys don't like being rejected either, so it is important that you keep the flames going.
IF a guy takes you out on one or two dates and then you never hear from him again, it either means 1 of 2 things:
1. He took time to get to know you, but decided he didn't like you
2. He was only interested in sex. He either gets it and runs OR decides that your not that type of girl and gives up trying.
There really are only three types of people you are gonna meet out there and this goes for both guys and girls. The ones who show interest and mean nothing by it (just flirting), those who only want sex, and the rest who are genuinely looking for commitment. The BEST way figure out what a guy wants is to play the waiting game with him...make him WORK for you.
Guys, believe it or not, want to feel a sense of accomplishment in the dating world. We want to feel like we did all the right things and, because of that, we are advancing things along. Guys don't like things handed to them on a silver platter...it takes all the thrill out of it and ruins their respect for that girl. Being slightly challenging forces a guy to respect you and that is what you want. The opposite is true too though...a girl that plays extremely hard to get frustrates us to no end. Many guys end up giving up on girls like that just because they feel like they are getting nowhere and go home with bruised egos.
There is a balance you must keep between the two of you...constant tension...give and take. Remember that if it feels like either one of you is doing all the giving and getting nothing back, then its wrong and it feels wrong, doesn't it? The feelings have to be mutual.
Why hang back and wait for someone to show interest in you? The next time you find someone attractive, why don't YOU just go after them? Sitting back and worrying about whether or not somebody likes you puts you on the defensive. You need to go on offense and let them know what you want. And then they can take it or leave it.
If you are an attractive girl, then most guys would be flattered to know you like them. Next time you are out somewhere and you see someone you like, just totally stare them down. Now, whether or not I'm interested in the guy, I'd never complain about a hottie (or at least a somewhat attractive guy) checking me out.
If you're shy it can be a little hard to do at first, but work on it. Once you have a guy in your sights, just keep looking at him. Not in a creepy, I-have-a-collection-of-heads-hidden-in-my-freezer kind of way, but a coquettish, sexy, teasing way. Keep catching his eye, and openly admire his whole package. You can start off slow and incrementally increase the blatancy level. That way, you make it very clear what you want. And if the guy likes you too, he won't be so afraid to come over and talk to you.
If you take the upper hand, then you won't have to go around all the time freaking out over what kind of signals the guy is sending/not sending. Make it clear that you are diggin' him, and then if he wants to respond he will, and if not, then not.
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