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Old 08-20-2006, 03:15 PM   #1
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liking attention?

I am in a very committed relationship and I love my boyfriend very much. But when I'm out in public I still like it when other guys look at me in a "lustful" way I guess... like they really notice me. Is that wrong? When I see them looking I want to flirt and then be like HA I have a boyfriend and I love him more than anything in the world! I've read that couples should be allowed to look because it's healthy but it still worries me. I want them to look at me...but still. Am I doing something wrong?

 
Old 08-20-2006, 04:28 PM   #2
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Re: liking attention?

Leelee, everyone likes to know that they're attractive, it's exciting and thrilling to receive flirtatious attention from others. Nothing to feel bad about.
Just because someone has a signifigant other doesn't mean other people stop mattering. It's okay to flirt, I just wouldn't lead anybody on to the point where they think you are interested, since they could end up hurt.
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Old 08-21-2006, 12:45 AM   #3
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Re: liking attention?

In my opinion as long as your not actually confronting these guys and flirting with them then there's no problem. If you got it you've got it girl, nothing wrong with that. But if you are actually talking with these guys(for instance: flirting with them and getting their numbers only to throw them away in the trash) then you should not be in a serious relationship cause you're not ready.
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Old 08-21-2006, 09:04 AM   #4
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Re: liking attention?

its a little immature, you might want to do a search on histrionic personality disorder.

 
Old 08-21-2006, 09:32 AM   #5
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Re: liking attention?

Even though you love your bf you still want to know you are attractive to others. It is normal, no man nor woman can say even though in a committed relationship if they notice someone of the opposite sex noticing them it doesn't feel good.

Just try not to go to far with the flirting just so you can say haha.

 
Old 08-21-2006, 11:17 AM   #6
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When I see them looking I want to flirt and then be like HA I have a boyfriend and I love him

Hi Leelee, This is the part I don't understand.
This doesn't sound very nice! I mean the guys you flirt with have feelings too.

 
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Re: liking attention?

I had to laugh when I read this post. In my "younger days", I enjoyed receiving looks from "other" men. It didn't matter if it was in a bar, the mall, or walking down the street. The funny thing is, now that I am older, I don't even notice them looking anymore. My husband usually points them out and says "Did you see that guy check you out?" I don't even care. And if by chance I catch them looking, I think to myself "Pervert"
Funny how age changes a person,,,,,
I think it's fine to like the attention. Just be careful how you react to it.

 
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