While eating dinner my b/f was talking on how he wanted to change in his life. Get a better job so WE could have a better life( although we don't live together) He has a daughter he has not seen in some time. He said he would like to start to work on things with her. Which by me is fine. I asked what about his daughters mom? He said well first she is with someone and for sometime now. And I am with you. When we first see each other cause it has been a long time we may seem like there are sparks, but we know that is not the case. And we may talk about why we broke up. And it may seem like there is something there. Even if she was not with anyone, I would never leave you for her I am with you. What ever she does in her life is her issue . Am I being to sensitive? That whole sparks remark kinda bugged me. What do you think?
What should I do? If I say that "spark" comment bothers me he will say I read into things and he told me he is with me !!! he also said I don't need to be with her to have my daughter ( I guess because I looked rather not impressed) he said I am with the person I want .
I honestly think men dont think before they speak 9 times out of 10....He didnt need to tell you the thoughts he was thinking about the situation. It sounds to me like he was thinking out loud, which I dont think he meant any harm, but guys are clueless.
Yea ! Men are mostly just hairless apes, you'll understand perfectly when you learn to read our grunts. UUH uuh uuh ee ee... Just kidding.
It does sound like he is feeling insecure and afraid of losing you. And you ladies are right, we are lousy in words when expressing feelings, especially with love. He is kinda making promises that he will try to improve and make things better. He is vouching his loyalty and hoping for some reassurances.
I wouldn't get hung up on the "spark" thing too much. It's just a meaningless grunt. UUH uuh
Personally, I look at this totally different. He hasn't seen his daughter "in some time." How long is that exactly? I am sure his ex is not happy with the fact that he hasn't seen his daughter. If he hasn't seen the daughter, then I am sure he hasn't seen the ex either. What in the world makes him think his ex even cares or thinks about him? She is probably ticked that he doesn't bother with his daughter.
All in all, I think it was just some fabrication he made up. I highly doubt there will be any sparks. Might be his way of showing his insecurities.
Well he does do alot of thinking out loud. The other thing he said was "why should I re-arrange my life for her anyways " his ex Plus his ex is with someone else. She left .. and has been with this guy for 4 years. As far as how long he has not seen his daughter.. it has been 2 years. And I am sure she calls the new guy dad by now . It is a long story... I told him if he decided he wants to do this he needs to be consistant. He wants me to meet his daughter. I said I would not .. well until I seen he was consistant and also I wanted to make sure her mom was ok with it. I did not want to confuse matters with his daughter.