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Old 08-24-2006, 09:28 PM   #1
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I need to know what he wants from me..

I met this guy 4 years ago, and we hit it off immediately. For 2 years we went out to dinner three time a week, and became very close "friends." I wanted more from him, although he made it clear, that although he liked me a lot, he didn't think it would be appropriate for us to begin an intimate or seriouse relationship, considering we were at different points in our lives. I was still in college, he graduated and was applying to graduate schools on the east coast (we lived on the west coast). Anyways, we saw less and less of eachother as i began to realize i wasn't going to get what i wanted from him. HE ended up going to MIT on the east coast and we hadn't spoken since then (2 years). HE came back to visit this passed week, and we got together, totally hit it off again as when we first were getting to know each other, and he spent the night with me. We didn't have sex, but we did pretty much everything else. We haven't discussed what we did, or what will happen next, if he enjoyed it, etc. He is leaving in 2 days, and of course i would like to spend more time with him, but i'm afraid of getting attached, considering he'll be gone for the next year. I don't even know what he is feeling, and i'm afraid to ask. Should i bite the bullet and confront him of his feelings, or should i just wait for him to bring it up? I don't want to regret not saying anything to him. So if i do decide to talk to him about this, how should i approach the situation? Any thoughts?

 
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Old 08-24-2006, 09:42 PM   #2
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Re: I need to know what he wants from me..

why did he come back in town? did you just run into him or did he come to see you? my guess is he likes you, has fun with you, enjoys your company and is an honest guy.....he told you he doesn't think it's appropriate to make big plans because of your career paths, etc.....
he's not leading you on, you're just not listening to what he's telling you.
It was a night of fun, he's going away, keep the good memories of him and leave it at that. maybe something will develop, but I wouldn't wait by the phone if I were you.

 
Old 08-24-2006, 09:50 PM   #3
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Re: I need to know what he wants from me..

HE came back into town to visit friends and family. He called me. He told me it wasn't appropriate years ago, and for that reason we never even did so much as to kiss goodnight. Now he comes back and he jumps into bed with me, and we spend a passionate experience together. By sleeping with me, etc. couldn't he be expressing that it is appropriate for us to be together now, even though it would be long distance?

 
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Re: I need to know what he wants from me..

he's not interested in a committed relationship with you......he's got the relationship he wants with you, it's basically friends with benefits.
for all you know he may have a girlfriend back home on the other coast and this was just a fun fling.

 
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