Do we say something or not?
My husband and I have a couple who are our friends. We've known them for a short time compared to our other friends, but have spent a great deal of time together as families. They are not married but living together with a 2 year old child. She has said they are getting married but when the subject is brought up, he claims they are not - for various reasons.
Anyway, as time has gone on and we have spent weekend trips with them, not to mention all the times during the week, we've found that we don't like HER. At. All. She is manipulative, controlling, lazy, moody and whiney. She can't or won't take care of her own child alone, calling on him to help or do everything for her. She does not clean or do dishes (piles sitting on the counters for days and days, causing flies to swarm the entire house). She calls him every 5 minutes (I'm not exaggerating the # either) when he stops over to help out with something or just to see what's going on, even if she is not home anyway. She has disallowed him to go fishing or hunting of any kind with my husband and if they run an errand or do a sidejob, she calls him constantly. The stories I've heard from my husband about how she uses sex to manipulate him to not do the things he enjoys are outrageous and its rumored they barely have sex but a few times a month. She is jealous and controlling yet she cyber stalks her ex boyfriend from 4 years ago and receives emails from other exes, however, she has a key logger on her PC to track HIS whereabouts on the internet! I could go on and on and on.
So my question is this: at what point, or is there a point, that we offer our outside opinion or guidance to him about their relationship? He is miserable, complains about most of the stuff to either my husband or us together and I think feels trapped because of the child. I refuse to spend time with them any longer because she has directly caused drama in my life and I have enough! I don't like her but I don't want him to think that we don't like him so I feel like I should say something. But I also don't want to offend him either. They are young, 25 & 26, and life is too short to spend it like that. I can't bare to watch it anymore either, period.
So do we say something or just shut up and continue putting distance between us gradually, until we no longer have to be subjected to their crap?