Re: Help me out, please.
You need to back way off and cut contact for several reasons.
1. The more you chase someone the faster they run away, men or women. That's just the way life is. She may come back, or not, depending on her true feelings for you, but she needs space to miss you and wonder about you and what she gave up.
2. You need to develop a life, friends and support system, for yourself, in case she doesn't come back. Even if she does, you must have a life of your own. NO ONE can be the end all and be all, of our lives. It is too much work for any one of us.
3. You are NOT her friend, nor do you want to be ONLY her friend. You are her, or want to be her, lover. Don't settle for less then you want, in a relationship. If she can't provide it, you need to move on and find a woman who can. Seeing her as just a friend is telling her, by your own actions, that you will accept only that. Is that really all you want, from her? Are you really willing to listen to her cry on your shoulder about the new guys in her life, once she's made it clear it's friendship only? She'll have it good, a date when she needs one and a guy who loves her, even as she dates other guys. What do you get out of that kind of deal? A broken heart. And remember, you will never be open to new love, as long as you are obsessing about her.
Last edited by eve40; 08-27-2006 at 03:06 PM.