Originally Posted by confusedbloke
Eventually we split up with me moving out of the house. I was initially gutted as you can imagine but slowly I started to move on. After about 2 months I decided I wanted to try to get her back, which I did. We then decided to move away from where we were and start again fresh.
Just exactly WHY did you decided that "you want to get her back" ?
Frankly, you two probably have no business being together except in the name of your son.
This is the continuation of a vicious cycle. Betrayal begets deceits and vice versa. But at least you were sincere to yourself that you no longer want to be with her, that was the first step.
Generally, I'm an advocate for the "for better or worse" situtation but I think you have gone too far beyond that. I hope you'll work out a peaceful resolution with you wife and initiate separation soon.