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Old 08-28-2006, 06:12 PM   #1
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In a total dilema.

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Old 08-28-2006, 06:30 PM   #2
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Re: In a total dilema.

Well, what exactly does she mean by a risk of cancer? Does it run in her family? Was she exposed to something that is a suspected cause of it? Did she see a doctor who gave her some kind of warning? Can you elaborate here?
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Old 08-28-2006, 06:37 PM   #3
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Re: In a total dilema.

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Old 08-28-2006, 06:48 PM   #4
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Re: In a total dilema.

First of all, don't get upset. She does not HAVE cancer. And there is no saying that she ever will develop it. And even if she did, there are a lot of treatments and survivors out there. So, don't freak! You're getting yourself all worked up for nothing.

I can understand that you don't want to start really caring about someone and then lose them to a life-threatening illness at a young age. But what are you going to do, go through life only caring about people who you can comfortably feel will live into their 90's? Not to be rude, but do you really want people to introduce themselves to you like, "Hi, I'm Jenny, there's a small chance I might develop cancer someday in the future. What's your name?" Heh. You already have a bond with this girl, so just enjoy every day that you get to talk to her. If she does unfortunately develop cancer then cross that bridge when you come to it.

Don't spend your life freaking out about something that has not even happened. That's no way to live!
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Old 08-28-2006, 10:19 PM   #5
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Re: In a total dilema.

Let me tell you something. Cancer runs in my family, yet my dad and my sister both smoke. Smoking, of course, also has been proven to lead to cancer. So why am I telling you this? Because you need to realize that your "problem" is mundane. Cancer or not, anyone can get sick or die this very minute. Yet we survive, because people are optimistic by nature. If we weren't, then there wouldn't be much of a reason to leave the house. Like Gypsy said, you can't be freaking out day in/day out over it!

Actually, I think she's unusually fortunate to have "inside" information on her health. The fact that she knows her old medication has been linked to cancer a-priori will hopefully motivate her to get a regular checkups. If cancer does materialize, catching it at its early phase is the best thing you can do.

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Old 08-29-2006, 12:15 AM   #6
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Re: In a total dilema.

Ok, I met my girlfriend online and JUST as we both decided we had major feelings for each other, but had never met in person, she told me she had Hepatitis C. Well, of course I was very upset by this, but it didn't make me hesitate to continue with her or anything, not in the slightest.

She hadn't obviously mentioned anything earlier, cause why would she?

Hep C could kill her pretty damn prematurely, and I worry about this most days, if not every day. She's fine right now and has been for the 20+ years since she got it, but it terrifies me. But no matter what, I would regret absolutely nothing. I would rather be with her for just one single MINUTE and then lose her, than have never been with her at all. No question about it.

 
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