My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years now. In the begining of our relationship he was very affectionate... well okay, not very, but more-so than he is now. He we would go out to a movie he would on occasion put his arm around me or grab my hand to hold. This lasted for about the first 6 months or so of our relationship. Now however he never holds my hand when we are walking together or puts his arm around me while we are at the movies. I have brought it up and he said something like "This is just the way that I am." Is it normal for this to happen after you have been dating for a while. Any suggestions on how I can get him to be more affectionate?
Also, and this may sound really stupid and maybe I am looking into this way too much but... Lately he has been listening to songs that themes include wishing you could get back with an ex-girlfriend or longing for past relationships. Normally he listens to classic rock, but in the past few days he has started listening to that Hinder song "lips of an angel" and also that song by the ***** cat dolls that goes "don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me." Also he really likes that song "Photograph." but doesn't like anyother songs by the group. The girl he dated before me cheated on him, but she was the complete opposite of myself. Outgoing and liked to party. Sometimes I get the feeling that he misses having a girl go out with him all the time. With me he has really had to settle down some.
This was probably a really stupid question, but I cant help but wonder sometimes if he misses her. He still has pictures of his ex-girlfriends. I don't know why, but when he first started to date me he showed me these pictures and when I tried to take it out of his hand to look at it he became over protective of the photo. Maybe it was a joke, but I don't know.
I just don't want him to be setteling for me because he knows that I am safe and would never cheat on him. Before I met my current boy, I dated a string of losers. One was to chicken to dump me so he strung me along for a while untill he worked up the courage. (I could tell somthing was up) and one strung me along untill he met someone better and then just stoped calling me and didn't return any of my calls. I guess this has made me a little paranioid about being strung along. Does any of this make sense? How can you tell if your boyfriend is just setteling for you?
Sorry about all the spelling errors. Any input would be great!