I have a stumper that has been keeping me up at night.
The long story is, I have been with the same guy for over a year, but 6 months ago we split up because he was having emotional/sexual relationships behind my back with other women via the phone and internet. (his friend's girlfriends, and a friend of my own)
He did a lot to make it up to me, and I have been working hard to regain 100% trust in him.
A few days ago, however, I visited him only to find he had once again contacted one of the women he was messing around with behind my back. He had not spoken to her since the incident, and suddenly was trying to get back in touch with her. (despite the fact that she had not contacted him.)
I reacted badly. All of the old hurt came right back. I yelled at him and accused him of being disrespectful and having less-than-honest motives. Later though I took the time to face my fears and speak to the woman myself. She was genuinely sorry for what she had done and I felt that I could trust her, so I calmed down a great deal and apologized to him for over-reacting.
Since then however, he has been angry with me and barely speaks to me. His claim is that he did not deserve my anger because "it was innocent" and that I have "trust issues."
I, however, can't imagine any healthy woman in my shoes would have been comfortable in the same situation.
So I guess I just want to know from an unbiased opinion if I have "trust issues" or if my reaction was normal and healthy. That will help me pick a course of action from here.