HI, I don't know where to start, I have been seeing this guy for 1 1/2 years & we are engaged, but it seems in the last 6 - 10 months that he is acting differently, he spends all my money & never offers to buy me any thing or even go halves, he tells me I can't have certain foods (like chocolate) because they make me fat, if i do eat them he has a tantrum, he has no consideration when i have to get up early, he still wakes me up at 3am when he gets home ( he even sometimes watches movies really loud) he doesn't like me going out to town or seeing friends (not even txting them if they are male) & he accuses me of cheating on him, like every week (especially when Im tired & don't want to sleep with him)
Don't get me wrong, I love him more than anything but I just don't like being treated like this
Any advice would be appreciated
I would have to agree with the other poster. I know you do love him but if he is treating you like that now just think what it will be like after you get married. PLEASE don't think he will change because it won't. If anything it will only get worse.
You do need to kind of open your eyes. You don't deserve to be treated like this. I know its hard because I recently had to take my rose colored glasses off as well. It's not fun but it must be done.....
Just know that we are here for ya.......
Love, without the behaviors that demonstrate love, is not a love, it is low self esteem and fear of being alone dressed in the guise of love.
There is no advice one can give to make this better as he is who he is and is not likely going to change. You are left to decide if this is a life you want to live. Life and love can be better than this, I hope you can gather the courage to go find it.
Some posters are being really hard on you. I just want to tell you that it's not normal for your boyfriend to tell you not to eat chocolate or never take you out. It sounds like if you marry this cheapskate, you will have a lifetime of unhappiness, and he will never make you feel special and loved.
You deserve unconditional love, someone who is not cheap and who will spoil you sometimes, someone who respects you and who isn't selfish.
Don't spend another penny on your boyfriend. If you want to try to work things out with him, stop paying for him when you go out. Write a list of everything that needs to change, give him the list, and DO NOT settle for less.
Pay for yourself and let him pay for himself. If he says he has no money, go out by yourself. Tell him to sell some of the junk he undoubtably buys himself.
I happen to think that their posts are being harder on her fiance He deserves the criticism. It's hard to think about breakup being engaged and all, but the others are right. This needs to stop. I, too, believe that if you marry this guy, he's not going to change, and he'll continue making your life miserable. Avoid that route. You're clearly unhappy and in PAIN, so why marry into it? You'll just realize it later in life, and breakup with him then. Except this time, it's a divorce.