Why wont he see my point?!!
Been with my BF for 31/2 years and living together for 2. For the past 2 years we have endured real financial difficulties due to my low training salary, meaning that i could only contribute so much and he carrying the bulk of finances. Fast forward til now and i am now qualified and earning on a par with him. However, during these last 2 years we have fought over money and quality time no end. He believes that he sees me all the time and i am the only person he ever spends time with out side work therefore when he goes out with mates he wants breathing space but I think that just cause we live together we still need to make the effort to spend quality time doing together i.e.no housework!! he feels he lives with me so that should be enough! however, my point is that when i ask him to spend time doing something else like go for a walk, the cinema whatever, hes like no we cant afford it however, a few days later he out with mates!! now he says this is beacuse he has saved up a little bit of cash over last few weeks and wants to go and chill with mates cos he hasnt seen them and as he lives with me then he seem me all the time. but why cant he see this would upset me if all the time he telling me no and anything that he hs reserved he spend with them!! i am not objecting to him going out by any means but surely he can see my point?? can any of you?