My friend who comes in here as Isadoreme suggested that I come in here to get some people's advice and input about me and my relationships.
For starters, I'm a young 37 years old woman. I've been told that I'm pretty. Some have said that I resemble Scarlett Johanson, well, I don't see it in the mirror, but I do feel pretty most of the time.
I am educated with my own money, meaning I don't need a man in my life to help me financially. I have my own home and have a good position in a large corporation. I have most of my life together except for love.
I don't know if you would call it bad luck or just bad judgement, but I've been unlucky in love most of my adult life.
The first love of my life was in college. I thought he was in love with me until four years later, he'd cheated on me, which I have painfully ended.
Several years and several men later, I've dated all sorts of men from all walks of life. From a rich man to a man who wants to be supported. From a man who loves to drink to a man who loves Jesus. From a man who has a Phd to a man who can't even spell university. I've even dated a man who told me him and his wife were divorced which turned out to be a lie and when I have broken up with him, he ran after me and had left his family. As if that would make me want to go back to him.
All I want is a man who would accept me for who I am. A man who doesn't need me, but want me. A single man, preferrably w/o children, but if he has children, well, we'll cross that bridge together once I feel he'll be committed to me. I want a man who believes in the same God as I do, but not fanatic about it. I want a man who is employed, not necessarily make the same or more amount as I do. I want a man who is courteous, not just to me, but to everybody that he meets. A man who has his own opinion and not necessarily conform to mine and not afraid to voice it. A man who could stand up to me, but also compromising. A man who would still open my door and a man who is not afraid to show his affection to me. A man who will be loyal and faithful. A man who's unafraid to make a fool of himself as well as laugh at himself. Who's a family man and hygenic. One of my peet-peeves, cleanliness. A man who cares about himself meaning he takes care of himself physically. A man who is unafraid of intimacy, who makes me laugh and laughs with me. A man who shares similar goals and dreams and who won't give up on us. A man who would adore me as much as I adore him.
This is pretty much in a nutshell, being so late at night here.
Is this too much to ask from a man? Are my standards too high? I'm not asking for a George Clooney looking man to have Bill Gates's money. Has men evolve into a lazy, uneducated, untidy, uncaring, unkind, beer drinkin' and not counting the beer-gut, screaming at the tv type of people? It's slim pickin's out here and most men think that women like me should be happy that he's breathing and that he's showing interest in me. Wow! I guess some women may, but I do want a man who has some self-respect before I can respect him.
Your advices would be appreciated.