right here goes with my problem....ive being with my present boyfriend now for eight months...he sat me down last night and told me that sometimes he wonders what his doing with me ! this is when he goes to work , but then he said by the time he gets home he knows that im the one who he wants to be with. im so confused by these things he says to me, its like to me that sometimes his having doubts about us. also his 23 and im 34 i have three children which he seems quite happy to accept. i just wondered if anyone can please give me advice on this please?
I am confused by this too, but partly because I dont know what the reasons are for him "wondering what he is doing with you". Did he say what it is that makes him wonder this? Maybe people on this board can help with some advice if we knew a bit more about the situation.
Maybe he does have an issue with your having children and wants to start a fresh family with someone, he could be trying to work out what he really wants? You need to talk to him and find out what you both want out of this relationship, and if your going to get it.
Well, most 23 year olds aren't ready to make life committments and they are still questioning what, where, with who and how they want to spend the rest of their lives. Most 23 year olds are still trying to "find themselves" so to speak. So, I think that is why he questions his relationship with you. Being involved with an older woman with three kids can be overwhelming to someone his age. I would proceed in this relationship with caution. It may not last and I don't think you can really count on it. I'm not saying to break up but you may want to consider it more of a dating relationship rather than something that will be a life long committment right now. It could develop into the committment that you seek, but, it has only been 8 months. That is not that long.
he said he,d had this problem with wondering what his being doing in life since he was a child...he trys to reasure me its nothing personnal to me,but i think otherwise.his also told me he dont ever want kids of his own ,but perhaps when he matures a bit he might have a change of heart.