I have known this man for 17 years. I have been in his life now for 5years things were going good but now we have problems. Our sexual relationship is in trouble he is a very sexual person and I am not so that is a problem. Now he is turning to the internet looking at women. Any one have any advice for me it is really tearing me up inside. I'm afraid of breakup and i can't imagine my life without him. He has been very good to me.
Last edited by hurting for him; 09-26-2006 at 03:54 PM.
Then why is he going to the net for sex? You might be a "good team" on one level, but not on another.
Find the one for you---the one you will be more compatible with, that way everybody wins! You get someone like you, someone who enjoys the things you do and won't go to the net for sex so then you wont have to feel bad about who you are. He gets someone like him, who enjoys the things he does, and he wont have to feel like crap for wanting more from his partner than she is giving.
Last edited by HelpHelpHelp; 09-26-2006 at 11:15 PM.
If he is more sexual but you don't feel you can or aren't prepared to give him any more in the way of sexual attention you have two options in my opinion, 1) leave him because you can't cope with him looking for sex elsewhere or 2) realise you can't stop him looking for sex elsewhere if you can't satisfy his needs and accept it.
However personally if I was in love with someone more sexual than me I'd look into ways I could improve my sex drive. If he knew you were at least making the effort for him he may not feel the need to go on the net.
What I wonder more is, why can't he live without sex? He would rather destroy his relationship than be happy with what you can give?
The best thing would be going to relationship/marriage counselling together.