I am new to this board. I frequent a few of the other boards. I would like to tell you my story and ask for advice. Please be honest. I don't want this to sound bad.
I am divorced and have a 4 year old daughter. I live with my boyfriend. We have been dating for a year and a half and living together for a year.
My ex-husband was very mentally abusive. Even after we were divorced. He just was not a nice person. I had to keep in contact with him because of my daughter. At any rate, on August 11 he committed suicide.
My daughter is closer to my boyfriend, John, than she was to my ex. Since this happened, he has talked about adopting her, just throwing it out there. Of course, many things would have to happen before that, like marriage, etc.
So now getting to the point. He is the sweetest guy in the world. He treats us wonderful. I love him very much. However, there is one thing that bothers me. He is about 100 lbs overweight. He has gained over the past year also. Of course, I fell in love with him for who he is. But, especially if we are considering a future together I need him to be healthy for himself first and foremost. But also for my daughter. She has already lost one father, she doesn't need to loose another.
Even if he lost 50 lbs, I think it would benefit him/us. He says he wants to do this, but it is all talk.
I hope this doesn't sound awful. He is only 35.
Please let me know what you think. Thanks