Lost: I feel your pain as I am in the same situation at this time. Only my man verbally abuses me. I had my mind set in we are broke up and he is to save and get a place, then somehow he thought we could work it out. Then last nite that changed ONCE AGAIN. I just had some insecure feelings (I know I need to work on that) but he wouldn't talk he used the cold heart approach and I said this is not helping me right now and he continued to use other "Cold Hearted" words. Of course we both drink, but my feellings started before the first drink. It is hard to give up on something so easily, but I also feel if I can just get him out then everything will be for the best on both of us. So many of us good one's are staying in "bad/unhappy" relationship becasue the fear of finding someone else, when actually we don't need anyone at this time. There is the mind thing we should get straightened out first. Many feel they need to rush to the next and the ex's stay because they can't stand the thought of them with someone else. My situation I do have kids, and it makes it worse. So get out while you DO NOT HAVE KIDS! Good luck, we can't tell you what to do, but fighting/arguing all the time takes a toll on us mentally. Both parties. I want to be done! It is hard to do though, because I feel like I failed and I did everything wrong, but everyone keeps telling me it is him lowering my self esteem which could be very possible. I have none left!
Please talk to me as I would love to listen. I always find I never have anyone to talk to when I am going through my break up.