I really hate to say this, but at times, she can be the biggest b****. Today, for instance, I was driving home from the library with her. I had to turn in an overdue library book, and she came along even though she didn't want to (she had to accompany me because I have a learner's, not a license).
Now, when we got home and pulled into the garage, she said that I was pulling up too close to the wall. I was certain that I wasn't, though. When I shut off the car, I tried to open the door, but I discovered that I couldn't do so because the mirror was bumping into a cabinet. If I'd pulled up a few more inches into the garage, the door could open (where the cabinet was not taking up space), so I was not in any way too close to the wall. However, she got all smug about it, saying, "Not too close, huh?" I tried to explain to her that it was only because the mirror was directly next to the cabinet, but she refused to acknoledge that fact.
Quickly thinking, I came up with a solution that would allow me to get out of the truck without having to drive further into the garage. I'd already taken the keys out and given them to my mom, so I asked for them back. See, to me, she was trying to put me in a tight spot and make me look like I didn't know what I was doing. But I wanted to show her how I could get out of the truck through the driver's door without moving the truck. I asked for the keys, and she stubbornly refused and said, "No." I kept fighting for them and yelling and demanding that I have them. We both got in a big yelling match as we struggled over the keys. Eventually, I managed to get the keys and put the truck in "accessory" mode. While in accessory mode, I rolled down the windows and folded the mirror so the door could open wider. I got out, rolled the windows back up, shut off the motor, and then unfolded the mirror.
When we got inside, my mom still refused (and still does refuse) to acknowledge that I had gotten myself out of a tight spot. Now...please don't label me as a cruel person for what I have to say next. I have tendencies...to do things I don't mean...anyway, we got in a bit of a "wrestling" match. That was about half an hour ago, and she's been screaming at me since. She threatened to tell my dad about it. I probably deserve it, but I'm not in any way looking forward to it because my dad can get kind of physical sometimes. He hasn't in a very long time, but like me, he does have the capability/tendency to do so. I probably got his genes for that, as I'm ashamed to say. I did not mean to do such a thing in any way, but I am just so tired of how she seemingly tries to deliberately keep me from getting out of tight spots. She just wants to see me fail.
But this isn't the only time. We've had plenty
of other occasions very similar to this. We've gotten into major fights over the smallest things - all because she (and I) are so stubborn. She refuses to see me win, and I refuse to let her see me fail. I know, everyone fails on occasion, but the point is, she's so stubborn and smart alecky about it at times that it drives me up a wall, which leads to me acting as I do.
My relationship with my mom can be good, but many times, it is just awful. There are many times we just cannot get along at all. What should I do? How can we put aside our differences? I feel very ashamed about all this, and I fear how my dad is going to act on this.