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Old 10-12-2006, 07:21 PM   #1
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Question Stupid Rule or Some Truth?

I recently started dating this great guy. I like him a lot. I think he likes me too. We've been seeing each other on average about 1x a week for about the last month. He always ends the evenings with "I'll call you". He usually does, but not always on the day he says he's going to. This kind of bothers me a bit. I guess what I'm trying to say is, is it OK for the girl to call the guy? I keep hearing from my friends that I shouldn't call him, and that the guy should always do the calling. Is this just a stupid old rule, or does it have some truth to it?

 
Old 10-12-2006, 08:04 PM   #2
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Re: Stupid Rule or Some Truth?

Well I think it is a pretty out of date rule, though a lot of women still are pretty old fashion about things, like that anyway. I woulod make it a habbit. An occaisional call here and there shows your a confident women, and there is nothing wrong with that. If you abuse it and call too much you quite simply look desperate. Get the book "Why men love *******" It is a womans Bible. trust me it is perfect for the single or dating girls out there....
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Old 10-13-2006, 01:19 PM   #3
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Re: Stupid Rule or Some Truth?

I see where you are coming from. As a man myself, I think that in the first place he should keep his word and call you on the promised date and hour, even if he - like everyone else on earth - has the right to play hard to get. If he can't keep what he says about a simple telephone call, what are you to expect about a more serious commitment? Well, maybe I am exaggerating, but if it really bothers you, I think you should talk to him about it. You are not asking him to call every day, but on the day and at the time he has mentioned. What is wrong about that?

As for your calling him yourself, I see no problem here, but as a rather conventional man, I would say you shouldn't overdo it and try ever to call him more frequently than he calls you. Anyway, I think it is you for try it once at least and see what kind of reaction he has.

If you feel that he doesn't approve of it, maybe this is again another issue for you to discuss with each other. It is important for you to check it now, to break this pattern as early as possible, so that you can feel you have freedom to come and go in this relationship and you don't have to take on a passive role altogether.

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Old 10-13-2006, 01:38 PM   #4
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Re: Stupid Rule or Some Truth?

I think your friends is right, unfortinately rules are not in woman's favor. If you start calling unless you have agreement that you will call, it would mean that you are too eager and too desportative to have him and will spoil things for you.
At the same time you should bring to his attention that he should call you when he promised so you can have other plans.

 
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